"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met girl & SHE friended ME. I want to ask her out.

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But I don't have her number.

I don't know when I'll see her again -- but I know I will see her within two or three weeks. I just don't know when - it's the nature of my job.

She mentioned she wanted to go to this new restaurant and I didn't act on it. Yeah, my bad. But now I want to take her there.

My options:
1) Ask her number via FB, then call her and ask her out
2) Ask her out via FB
3) Wait until I see her again (and I will see her again). This could be tomorrow or it could be in 3 weeks.

Thoughts please!
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Send her a note on Facebook. "Nice hanging with you. Let's do it again some time. What's your number?"

Then take the conversation off the internet, to the phone, and then in person.
 
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Iceberg said:
Send her a note on Facebook. "Nice hanging with you. Let's do it again some time. What's your number?"

Then take the conversation off the internet, to the phone, and then in person.
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Agreed.

Two key points:

1) DO NOT ask her out on Facebook. Get her number, like Iceberg says.

2) Just because she mentioned some new restaurant, don't go along with that. She may just be planning to use you to get a free feed there.

Arrange something else.
 
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Great advice.

Remember, difficult women remain DIFFICULT.

It doesn't matter what lines or pick-up techniques you use. It's completely useless.

So, a simply message and her number should be enough. If she doesn't want to comply forget about it, move on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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