"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Met girl & SHE friended ME. I want to ask her out.

ohiobohio518

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But I don't have her number.

I don't know when I'll see her again -- but I know I will see her within two or three weeks. I just don't know when - it's the nature of my job.

She mentioned she wanted to go to this new restaurant and I didn't act on it. Yeah, my bad. But now I want to take her there.

My options:
1) Ask her number via FB, then call her and ask her out
2) Ask her out via FB
3) Wait until I see her again (and I will see her again). This could be tomorrow or it could be in 3 weeks.

Thoughts please!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Iceberg

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Send her a note on Facebook. "Nice hanging with you. Let's do it again some time. What's your number?"

Then take the conversation off the internet, to the phone, and then in person.
 

runner83

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Iceberg said:
Send her a note on Facebook. "Nice hanging with you. Let's do it again some time. What's your number?"

Then take the conversation off the internet, to the phone, and then in person.
Agreed.

Two key points:

1) DO NOT ask her out on Facebook. Get her number, like Iceberg says.

2) Just because she mentioned some new restaurant, don't go along with that. She may just be planning to use you to get a free feed there.

Arrange something else.
 

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Great advice.

Remember, difficult women remain DIFFICULT.

It doesn't matter what lines or pick-up techniques you use. It's completely useless.

So, a simply message and her number should be enough. If she doesn't want to comply forget about it, move on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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