"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met girl from internet tonight and things went pretty bad.. Did I do the right thing?

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Just my 3 cents, but if you pre-established that tennis was on the agenda and she didn't live up to it, after giving her numerous other suggestions, then you did the right thing by leaving.

What you said could have been phrased better, maybe. Something along the lines of:

"Well I drove an hour to have some fun, not sit around and make small talk. If you want to do what we both agreed on, let's do it. If not, I'll see you around."

Then you leave if she's not up for it. Don't say anything or whine. Just leave. Your a man and she's got to respect your time.

What you SHOULDN'T have done, was tell her you made it back ok. If you wouldn't have said anything and waited a few days, there's a chance she might have apologized. But now, you can forget it. Just move on and look at this as a learning experience.

TMTC
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Move on kid - only a hor would respond in such a curt manner!!!!!!!!!! Woman do not respond like her - never let a hor control your emotions or actions!!!
 

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You ask this board for advice and then you blast each and every post? There's nothing to be said that hasn't been pretty well-said already except for the fact that ya gotta chill out bro. Tripping out over each response saying "BUT I DROVE AN HOUR TO PLAY TENNIS AND SHE DIDN't WANNA HAVE SEX IMMEDIATELY AND WAS PSYCHO" isn't helping your case any. Relax, have some fun with it. Take some of the advice on this board to heart for the next time around.
 
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Themanthatcan said:
Just my 3 cents, but if you pre-established that tennis was on the agenda and she didn't live up to it, after giving her numerous other suggestions, then you did the right thing by leaving.

What you said could have been phrased better, maybe. Something along the lines of:

"Well I drove an hour to have some fun, not sit around and make small talk. If you want to do what we both agreed on, let's do it. If not, I'll see you around."

Then you leave if she's not up for it. Don't say anything or whine. Just leave. Your a man and she's got to respect your time.

What you SHOULDN'T have done, was tell her you made it back ok. If you wouldn't have said anything and waited a few days, there's a chance she might have apologized. But now, you can forget it. Just move on and look at this as a learning experience.

TMTC


Thank you sir!


I just called her and left those remarks on her v/m, and she immediatly texted me back "i'm sorry"

wtf does that mean?

is she sincere, or playing games?
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Thank you sir!


I just called her and left those remarks on her v/m, and she immediatly texted me back "i'm sorry"

wtf does that mean?

is she sincere, or playing games?
You may have had a chance of figuring her out if you had talked to her initially. This typically happens when a guy forgoes qualifying a woman when they meet in order to engage in some activity.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
You may have had a chance of figuring her out if you had talked to her initially. This typically happens when a guy forgoes qualifying a woman when they meet in order to engage in some activity.

Whenever I call she doesnt answer.

She just texted me the word "im sorry"
 

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Whenever I call she doesnt answer.

She just texted me the word "im sorry"
Sometimes things just don't fit no matter how much lube you use.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Whenever I call she doesnt answer.

She just texted me the word "im sorry"
Anybody else starting to think that this thread is a wind up?
 
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