"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Met girl from internet tonight and things went pretty bad.. Did I do the right thing?

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Just my 3 cents, but if you pre-established that tennis was on the agenda and she didn't live up to it, after giving her numerous other suggestions, then you did the right thing by leaving.

What you said could have been phrased better, maybe. Something along the lines of:

"Well I drove an hour to have some fun, not sit around and make small talk. If you want to do what we both agreed on, let's do it. If not, I'll see you around."

Then you leave if she's not up for it. Don't say anything or whine. Just leave. Your a man and she's got to respect your time.

What you SHOULDN'T have done, was tell her you made it back ok. If you wouldn't have said anything and waited a few days, there's a chance she might have apologized. But now, you can forget it. Just move on and look at this as a learning experience.

TMTC
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Move on kid - only a hor would respond in such a curt manner!!!!!!!!!! Woman do not respond like her - never let a hor control your emotions or actions!!!
 

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You ask this board for advice and then you blast each and every post? There's nothing to be said that hasn't been pretty well-said already except for the fact that ya gotta chill out bro. Tripping out over each response saying "BUT I DROVE AN HOUR TO PLAY TENNIS AND SHE DIDN't WANNA HAVE SEX IMMEDIATELY AND WAS PSYCHO" isn't helping your case any. Relax, have some fun with it. Take some of the advice on this board to heart for the next time around.
 
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Themanthatcan said:
Just my 3 cents, but if you pre-established that tennis was on the agenda and she didn't live up to it, after giving her numerous other suggestions, then you did the right thing by leaving.

What you said could have been phrased better, maybe. Something along the lines of:

"Well I drove an hour to have some fun, not sit around and make small talk. If you want to do what we both agreed on, let's do it. If not, I'll see you around."

Then you leave if she's not up for it. Don't say anything or whine. Just leave. Your a man and she's got to respect your time.

What you SHOULDN'T have done, was tell her you made it back ok. If you wouldn't have said anything and waited a few days, there's a chance she might have apologized. But now, you can forget it. Just move on and look at this as a learning experience.

TMTC


Thank you sir!


I just called her and left those remarks on her v/m, and she immediatly texted me back "i'm sorry"

wtf does that mean?

is she sincere, or playing games?
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Thank you sir!


I just called her and left those remarks on her v/m, and she immediatly texted me back "i'm sorry"

wtf does that mean?

is she sincere, or playing games?
You may have had a chance of figuring her out if you had talked to her initially. This typically happens when a guy forgoes qualifying a woman when they meet in order to engage in some activity.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
You may have had a chance of figuring her out if you had talked to her initially. This typically happens when a guy forgoes qualifying a woman when they meet in order to engage in some activity.

Whenever I call she doesnt answer.

She just texted me the word "im sorry"
 

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Whenever I call she doesnt answer.

She just texted me the word "im sorry"
Sometimes things just don't fit no matter how much lube you use.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Whenever I call she doesnt answer.

She just texted me the word "im sorry"
Anybody else starting to think that this thread is a wind up?
 
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