"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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windust505

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I met this girl at a bar. We met back up 4 times in 2 weeks. The last time I saw her, we made out. For the last two months, we have been apart due to my job. But have been talking on the phone with her all the time. During our last conversation I told her how much I loved Her. She said do you really mean that. Love takes a long time to form. I told her that I did indeed have very strong feelings for her. The conversation continued and before we said goodbye she said I love you too. She is a very honest girl. I believe That I passed a test.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is there a question or are you putting this out for opinion?

How can you love some one you've never seen naked? Let alone met 4 times in person?
 

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Question: Did I pass a test by her saying I love you too? I don't think seeing her naked should make a difference. We have a great chemistry.
 

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Rhoto said:
How can you love some one you've never seen naked? Let alone met 4 times in person?
Have you ever heard the term Love is Blind? It truely is. When you really fall in love, imperfections go out the window. She could have all kinds of quirks about her body when the clothes come off.. but it probably won't matter to him. The trick is to figure out if it's infatuation or love that is driving your emotions because that is sometimes hard to tell. It sounds like she at least feels the same way as he does. I say don't rush things and just see what develops... after 4 dates it's hard to think that you could be in love, but if you're talking to her a lot on the phone... that can in part replace face time.

This girl I went out with Saturday... I really like her and can't wait to see her again. But, I know that most of what I'm feeling now is the excitement of meeting a new person... so I keep my mind in check. Even though the signs point to a good LTR potential... time is the only indicator that tells the outcome.

windust505 said:
Question: Did I pass a test by her saying I love you too? I don't think seeing her naked should make a difference. We have a great chemistry.
Don't think of it as a test, just realize that she's at least in the vicinity of the page you are on... women don't usually say I love you without meaning unless perhaps they're backed into a corner (ie telling her: if you don't love me we're breaking up). When one person says this to the other, they have to take a step back and examine their feelings... usually the other wasn't quite ready to say it, but if you are close enough to that time then they will take a chance and say it back. Just be thankful she reciprocated.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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