"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I met this girl at a bar. We met back up 4 times in 2 weeks. The last time I saw her, we made out. For the last two months, we have been apart due to my job. But have been talking on the phone with her all the time. During our last conversation I told her how much I loved Her. She said do you really mean that. Love takes a long time to form. I told her that I did indeed have very strong feelings for her. The conversation continued and before we said goodbye she said I love you too. She is a very honest girl. I believe That I passed a test.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is there a question or are you putting this out for opinion?

How can you love some one you've never seen naked? Let alone met 4 times in person?
 

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Question: Did I pass a test by her saying I love you too? I don't think seeing her naked should make a difference. We have a great chemistry.
 

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Rhoto said:
How can you love some one you've never seen naked? Let alone met 4 times in person?
Have you ever heard the term Love is Blind? It truely is. When you really fall in love, imperfections go out the window. She could have all kinds of quirks about her body when the clothes come off.. but it probably won't matter to him. The trick is to figure out if it's infatuation or love that is driving your emotions because that is sometimes hard to tell. It sounds like she at least feels the same way as he does. I say don't rush things and just see what develops... after 4 dates it's hard to think that you could be in love, but if you're talking to her a lot on the phone... that can in part replace face time.

This girl I went out with Saturday... I really like her and can't wait to see her again. But, I know that most of what I'm feeling now is the excitement of meeting a new person... so I keep my mind in check. Even though the signs point to a good LTR potential... time is the only indicator that tells the outcome.

windust505 said:
Question: Did I pass a test by her saying I love you too? I don't think seeing her naked should make a difference. We have a great chemistry.
Don't think of it as a test, just realize that she's at least in the vicinity of the page you are on... women don't usually say I love you without meaning unless perhaps they're backed into a corner (ie telling her: if you don't love me we're breaking up). When one person says this to the other, they have to take a step back and examine their feelings... usually the other wasn't quite ready to say it, but if you are close enough to that time then they will take a chance and say it back. Just be thankful she reciprocated.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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