"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Messaging after date?

old_skoolr

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So say you just had a date with a girl, gone for coffees, talked abit, maybe hooked up abit, dropped her off home. When do u rekon the best time to msg her afterwards is, the next day?? couple days later?? Been thinking about it, and thats probably the aspect of my game that needs working on, so I thought Id ask my fellow DJ what there views on it are.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DonJuanabe

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Shouldn't she be the one texting a thank you to you? Otherwise I'd wait until the third day and ask her out without even mentioning the prior date. Always focus forward, never backward.
 

MisterD

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yeah, i must say--anytime i've told the girl i had a good time i either got no reply or a lukewarm, late response.

let her text you about the date. if she doesn't, don't freak out. if you think it went well ask her out on another date
 

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let her text you about the date. if she doesn't, don't freak out. if you think it went well ask her out on another date

I agree.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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If you actually have an interesting life, you wouldn't need to worry about stuff like this subject. It is so high school. :crackup:

1) work out
2) pick a hobby you really like, preferably one that you can make money from
3) job hunt
4) meet new people, not just girls
5) spin like a DJ

Follow #1-5 and you won't even need to think about that question. You'll be too busy and/or having fun.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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JohnChops

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
If you actually have an interesting life, you wouldn't need to worry about stuff like this subject. It is so high school. :crackup:

1) work out
2) pick a hobby you really like, preferably one that you can make money from
3) job hunt
4) meet new people, not just girls
5) spin like a DJ

Follow #1-5 and you won't even need to think about that question. You'll be too busy and/or having fun.

stupid question but what is spin like a dj.... talk to more women? Is that what this metaphor is lol . Any lsit of good hobbies that make you money :p
 
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