"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Messaging after date?

old_skoolr

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So say you just had a date with a girl, gone for coffees, talked abit, maybe hooked up abit, dropped her off home. When do u rekon the best time to msg her afterwards is, the next day?? couple days later?? Been thinking about it, and thats probably the aspect of my game that needs working on, so I thought Id ask my fellow DJ what there views on it are.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonJuanabe

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Shouldn't she be the one texting a thank you to you? Otherwise I'd wait until the third day and ask her out without even mentioning the prior date. Always focus forward, never backward.
 

MisterD

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yeah, i must say--anytime i've told the girl i had a good time i either got no reply or a lukewarm, late response.

let her text you about the date. if she doesn't, don't freak out. if you think it went well ask her out on another date
 

Bible_Belt

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let her text you about the date. if she doesn't, don't freak out. if you think it went well ask her out on another date

I agree.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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If you actually have an interesting life, you wouldn't need to worry about stuff like this subject. It is so high school. :crackup:

1) work out
2) pick a hobby you really like, preferably one that you can make money from
3) job hunt
4) meet new people, not just girls
5) spin like a DJ

Follow #1-5 and you won't even need to think about that question. You'll be too busy and/or having fun.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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JohnChops

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
If you actually have an interesting life, you wouldn't need to worry about stuff like this subject. It is so high school. :crackup:

1) work out
2) pick a hobby you really like, preferably one that you can make money from
3) job hunt
4) meet new people, not just girls
5) spin like a DJ

Follow #1-5 and you won't even need to think about that question. You'll be too busy and/or having fun.

stupid question but what is spin like a dj.... talk to more women? Is that what this metaphor is lol . Any lsit of good hobbies that make you money :p
 
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