"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Men with Naturally High Testosterone Levels

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Men with higher natural testosterone levels tend to be more masculine. This is commonly accepted.

What are some of the identifiers that can be attributed to such men as far as appearance and personality goes?

Body Hair, Aggression, Baldness, Moodiness, Sexual, Dominant, Muscular?

Have you noticed it with the type of male friends you have?

I really can't stand men that don't act masculine and come across as weak. Playing it safe is feminine. My best male friends are guys that have very masculine personalities and appearances. They are aggressive, risk takers, talk about sex often, horny, had plenty of women, moody, and have lots of body hair, not afraid of much, successful careers.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Men with higher natural testosterone levels tend to be more masculine. This is commonly accepted.

What are some of the identifiers that can be attributed to such men as far as appearance and personality goes?

Body Hair, Aggression, Baldness, Moodiness, Sexual, Dominant, Muscular?

Have you noticed it with the type of male friends you have?

I really can't stand men that don't act masculine and come across as weak. Playing it safe is feminine. My best male friends are guys that have very masculine personalities and appearances. They are aggressive, risk takers, talk about sex often, horny, had plenty of women, moody, and have lots of body hair, not afraid of much, successful careers.
Statistically I have the highest natural testosterone in a room 95%+ at any time. I have been weightlifting while posting this. If I could handle my personal life my career I’d be flying. I exhibit most of what you express above. I play fast and loose
 

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Statistically I have the highest natural testosterone in a room 95%+ at any time. I have been weightlifting while posting this. If I could handle my personal life my career I’d be flying. I exhibit most of what you express above. I play fast and loose
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Men with higher natural testosterone levels tend to be more masculine. This is commonly accepted.

What are some of the identifiers that can be attributed to such men as far as appearance and personality goes?

Body Hair, Aggression, Baldness, Moodiness, Sexual, Dominant, Muscular?

Have you noticed it with the type of male friends you have?

I really can't stand men that don't act masculine and come across as weak. Playing it safe is feminine. My best male friends are guys that have very masculine personalities and appearances. They are aggressive, risk takers, talk about sex often, horny, had plenty of women, moody, and have lots of body hair, not afraid of much, successful careers.
John Wayne APPEARED to be the sort of guy you're describing, yet he spent the entirety of WWII on a Hollywood backlot, and all of his "heroics" were staged. Similar story with Clint Eastwood

By contrast, here's Richard Winters of Easy Company


While not a metrosexual, he definitely resembles the boy next door more so than the standard scowling action hero
 

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John Wayne APPEARED to be the sort of guy you're describing, yet he spent the entirety of WWII on a Hollywood backlot, and all of his "heroics" were staged. Similar story with Clint Eastwood

By contrast, here's Richard Winters of Easy Company


While not a metrosexual, he definitely resembles the boy next door more so than the standard scowling action hero
Listen to some of his personal interviews if you think he lacks masculinity in real life. To ignore his contribution to society and most importantly as a well respected masculine role model is obtuse.
 

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Listen to some of his personal interviews if you think he lacks masculinity in real life. To ignore his contribution to society and most importantly as a well respected masculine role model is obtuse.
Hey, I like a lot of John Wayne's movies. Let's just not ignore the fact that the guys who are doing the macho, manly things out in RL often aren't the folks who fit the Hollywood image of Alpha-ness
 
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I believe the best indicator of high testosterone is libido. This is not something I can directly observe with majority of the men I interact with, but I see it with my close friends and can get a sense of it from men in general. High libido = high dopamine = high test

Black men have naturally higher level of Test, but also higher levels of E, which is why many of them are often quite emotionally volatile. With them, the most obvious symptom is increased muscle mass, which is also genetically determined, but i'd say the secondary sure-fire sign of high T is your ability to gain muscle/strength.

Things like confidence, dominance, etc can actually be highly serotonergic and I'm sure we've all known men who have "zen like" qualities, not overtly masculine, but can take charge and lead people with a calm and rational mindsets, this doesn't require high T.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think this is more of an effect from being raised by spoiled single moms in a pseudo matriarchy.
Nah it's true. Black men have a LOT against them, but the genetics to build a good physique is not one of them...

And even if that's true, I geuss that most black men are not in shape nowadays...like all other races.
 

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I got a ticket for disorderly last night. Punched the door of an Uber driver who knew I was drinking h when he took my ride and then in car, no reason whatsoever, says he’s taking me back because I was drunk. So what do I do besides the above obviously, I have like 8 cops, giving me a hard time because I hit on their coworker. At least they didn’t bring me downtown.
 

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I got a ticket for disorderly last night. Punched the door of an Uber driver who knew I was drinking h when he took my ride and then in car, no reason whatsoever, says he’s taking me back because I was drunk. So what do I do besides the above obviously, I have like 8 cops, giving me a hard time because I hit on their coworker. At least they didn’t bring me downtown.
You desperately need to get your head straight. All it takes is one " tougher you" to give you that life altering beat down. Do not assume there's no man with less to lose than you walking around..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I got a ticket for disorderly last night. Punched the door of an Uber driver who knew I was drinking h when he took my ride and then in car, no reason whatsoever, says he’s taking me back because I was drunk. So what do I do besides the above obviously, I have like 8 cops, giving me a hard time because I hit on their coworker. At least they didn’t bring me downtown.
How old are you? Assuming from your name you have kids?
 

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Genetics are a big part of this conversation, especially in the beginning, like being BORN and developing with high testosterone is worlds apart from steroids, also cortisol levels are gonna play a bigger role, is it better to condition oneself to adversity and have cortisol levels impacted or face no adversity until full development to minimize cortisol stress?

You might say adversity, but you only get one go of development, timing is everything.

Developing with ZERO testosterone is something many young men are going through today, it's gonna have a big affect on them mentally as well as physically, those physical challenges can be overcome but not before the mental ones are, this is why it always makes me laugh when people go on about how things were when they were kids, like look how much change in the mind can be created by a hormone in balance alone, drawing comparisons is completely ridiculous and that's not even covering the socio-economics but I digress.

Controlling for cortisol and testosterone levels were led to believe these 2 chemicals provide the basis for the kingdom of men, yet the world just has this casual outlook in the absence and presence of them respectively... Healthy communities of men begin here, if we're led to believe the science and a future without them or not in balance is much more terrifying than most realize... You see the gap in logic here, something doesnt add up
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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