"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I know this guy who is really, really handsome girls always check him out all the time but he hardly ever pulls. Hes sorta seeing this girl, hes been out with her like 5 times but still not slept with her. How should he play it if he wants some *****? Should he not do the neg hits because hes a handsome guy and the girls may feel too insecure? Any tips here? And also is it a good idea to mack with a really handsome guy:p I sometimes use it to start up conversations with women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Le Parisien

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Why would you care about this supposedly "really handsome" guy?
How should he play it if he wants some *****? Should he not do the neg hits because hes a handsome guy and the girls may feel too insecure? Any tips here?
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Something tells me this guy might be your alter ego...:rolleyes:

How about you tell us straight up that you think you are a really handsome guy but you have trouble "going further" with some ladies?:kick: :whistle:
 
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LOL! No man im not a really handsome guy hahaha, this really handsome guy is a guy ive been hanging about with recently. He has just started approaching some girls because he has seen me do it. I've been with girls who have said wow your mate is so cute, the only answer I have for it now is "Yes I know".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wildchild said:
I've been with girls who have said wow your mate is so cute, the only answer I have for it now is "Yes I know".
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My reply will be...

"yeh, unfortunately he's gay" :rock:
 
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WTF man? Go out with him if he's a funny guy, otherwise go with someone else or alone, whatever. Don't use other people's qualities to pick up girls, that is very uncool.
 
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sounds like your mate needs some DJing skills.
Ddn't you read that even if a guys got fame, power, looks, money, he may still be crap at approaching girls and wont have sex.
 
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To answer the orginal question. I dont think he should use Neg hits. Women are already pedistooling him and he already has attained himself as the prize before he opens his mouth. If he neg hits her then she will just think hes big headed ego mania. I would tell him to move in with a little C+F.


I guess your coaching this guy? Or your the gay one and you fancy him?

If your coaching him and see the potential then I understand. I am coaching a friend of mine.

I totally agree with Fash's reply thow. I would prob say it in a joking manner thow as im not one to hold others back.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i have a very handsome friend too, and a girl i was trying to chat up with her friends said to me i like your friend but dont tell him. she said she liked my friend but couldnt even talk to him when he tried to chat her up and told him she had a boyfriend and she wondered why he wasnt interested in her anymore girls are silly. it isnt necessarily easy for handsome men.
 
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