"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Meeting Women at Hotels

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I’m now traveling a lot for work and get the opportunity to stay at some nice hotels, the type with decent bars. I’ve made small talk with a bunch of women who are also there for work but it never leads to anything. Most are also married. But there have a been a few where we just have good conversation about the usual work BS and traveling for work. Had we met at a local bar I would’ve number closed majority of these. But it’s a different situation and I’m struggling to think of a way to get the women to my room. What are some strategies for those of you who travel a lot?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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But there have a been a few where we just have good conversation about the usual work BS and traveling for work.
The work and travel aspect is a good opening subject and serves to establish common ground, but don’t linger there, once that common ground has been achieved move the convo to the more personal aspect and use your usual bar convo routine…
It’s a work trip and you want to have some fun, get her to the point of finding out if she does also …
 

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I’m now traveling a lot for work and get the opportunity to stay at some nice hotels, the type with decent bars. I’ve made small talk with a bunch of women who are also there for work but it never leads to anything. Most are also married. But there have a been a few where we just have good conversation about the usual work BS and traveling for work. Had we met at a local bar I would’ve number closed majority of these. But it’s a different situation and I’m struggling to think of a way to get the women to my room. What are some strategies for those of you who travel a lot?
Many of those married women are looking for extramarital sex.

Avoid talking about work topics at hotel bars.

Bring some unique souvenir with you on your travels which you could use as a plausible deniability lure to your room for sex.
 

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Many of those married women are looking for extramarital sex.

Avoid talking about work topics at hotel bars.

Bring some unique souvenir with you on your travels which you could use as a plausible deniability lure to your room for sex.
I’m wondering if wearing a fake wedding band would generate some positive results.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I’m wondering if wearing a fake wedding band would generate some positive results.
Only for a low class woman…
Most married women would prefer a single man, it’s viewed as less complicated, but neither may matter for a distant city ONS …
 

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Only for a low class woman…
Most married women would prefer a single man, it’s viewed as less complicated, but neither may matter for a distant city ONS …
The angle I was thinking about is bringing up how difficult things are with the wife due to all the traveling, etc. If she can relate, things could escalate into something.
 

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The angle I was thinking about is bringing up how difficult things are with the wife due to all the traveling, etc. If she can relate, things could escalate into something.
A sympathy play never works, makes the man look weak …
A married woman on the prowl when out of town wants to bed a man she feels is stronger than the betatized hubby she left at home watching the rugrats.
 

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The angle I was thinking about is bringing up how difficult things are with the wife due to all the traveling, etc. If she can relate, things could escalate into something.
A sympathy play never works, makes the man look weak …
A married woman out on the prowl when out of town wants to bed a man she feels is stronger than the betatized hubby she left at home watching the rugrats.
That angle won't work either out of town or in town. Don't fake the wedding band.

Most married women would prefer a single man, it’s viewed as less complicated, but neither may matter for a distant city ONS …
True statement
 

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That angle won't work either out of town or in town. Don't fake the wedding band.



True statement
I was at The Omni at The Star in Frisco this week. I was in awe of all the HB10s there.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was at The Star in Frisco this week. I was in awe of all the HB10s there.
Were those women local women or tourists? There's not much of a reason to be a tourist in Frisco, TX. There is an Omni Hotel at The Star. Frisco, TX is about as bland of suburbia as possible. Frisco locals are mostly married women.
 

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Were those women local women or tourists? There's not much of a reason to be a tourist in Frisco, TX. There is an Omni Hotel at The Star. Frisco, TX is about as bland of suburbia as possible. Frisco locals are mostly married women.
I edited my post. It was the Omni.
 

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I always ran into German women who spoke no English when I worked in Europe. Or some close variant of that nationality. So at least you can speak the same language where you travel. If that doesn't workout, a few doors down there would always be a vodka bar or something else of that caliber and the local women would be down to meet anyone. That's an ok reference point for the states. You wonder too far off from the hotel, if you aren't in a bigger city, then you get to deal with local filth. Where I live, it's BWW where all the traveling guys frequent. Not an ideal spot to pull from.
 

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I’m now traveling a lot for work and get the opportunity to stay at some nice hotels, the type with decent bars. I’ve made small talk with a bunch of women who are also there for work but it never leads to anything. Most are also married. But there have a been a few where we just have good conversation about the usual work BS and traveling for work. Had we met at a local bar I would’ve number closed majority of these. But it’s a different situation and I’m struggling to think of a way to get the women to my room. What are some strategies for those of you who travel a lot?
Invite her up. Simple as that. She either wants to or she doesn't. Women in those situations are far less likely to need much more than that if they are interested. They don't know anyone there. They can't be seen or get caught by someone. They don't have to worry about what their friends will think if they find out.

Think of all the times you were in that situation and didn't ask. Now imagine if you asked all of them. You missed out in at least 1 out of every 5 taking you up your offer most likely if you are decent looking and in shape.

You don't need any strategy, you just need to do what you do and then say something like "Well, it was really nice talking with you. I'm going to head back to my room. Care to join me?" And just look her right in the eye with a smirk. You will be amazed how many times you'll hear "yes" from something that simple.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I’m wondering if wearing a fake wedding band would generate some positive results.
A lot of women get attracted to men once they are “taken”. When a man is single and on the market, women don’t like it. If a man is attached they suddenly notice how good looking he is.

Try it.
 

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In my heavy corporate travel days I’d always ask for a spare magnetic key. Make sure you have a nice suite on a high floor. I’d take a sharpie and write my room number on it. You can get up from your drink at the bar and say “hey it was great talking to you. The view of the city from my corner suite is something to be seen! I’m going to have a drink before I pack it in, let’s go you have to see it”. If she says no or hesitates take that card out tap it on the bar so she hears and sees it, and say “in case you change your mind”, and walk away. Wait a half hour or whatever you’d like, no show? then call the front desk and say that you lost a room key and get it rekeyed. Simple.

I did it 4-5 times it worked 3x. Usually didn’t have to do the cars trick though if you read the sentiment
 

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I thought of this when i lived in Chicago. Of course i was happily married at the time. The rooftop bars were great. Always a nice place to go and lots of attractive women there.
 
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Coincidentally my friend just met a group of women who were in town for a conference staying at the Anatole in Dallas. He got one their numbers and going out with her tonight “to have fun”. Goes to show these things are pretty common.
 

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Coincidentally my friend just met a group of women who were in town for a conference staying at the Anatole in Dallas. He got one their numbers and going out with her tonight “to have fun”. Goes to show these things are pretty common.
Yup...women view being out of town as a free ticket to fvck and suck random guys they meet without their significant others ever finding out.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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