I’m now traveling a lot for work and get the opportunity to stay at some nice hotels, the type with decent bars. I’ve made small talk with a bunch of women who are also there for work but it never leads to anything. Most are also married. But there have a been a few where we just have good conversation about the usual work BS and traveling for work. Had we met at a local bar I would’ve number closed majority of these. But it’s a different situation and I’m struggling to think of a way to get the women to my room. What are some strategies for those of you who travel a lot?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Meeting Women at Hotels
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Strike up a conversation with women sitting alone in the lobby after 9PM. They are usually on the prowl, as well. Best to book hotels near convention centers
The work and travel aspect is a good opening subject and serves to establish common ground, but don’t linger there, once that common ground has been achieved move the convo to the more personal aspect and use your usual bar convo routine…
It’s a work trip and you want to have some fun, get her to the point of finding out if she does also …
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Many of those married women are looking for extramarital sex.
Avoid talking about work topics at hotel bars.
Bring some unique souvenir with you on your travels which you could use as a plausible deniability lure to your room for sex.
I’m wondering if wearing a fake wedding band would generate some positive results.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Only for a low class woman…
Most married women would prefer a single man, it’s viewed as less complicated, but neither may matter for a distant city ONS …
The angle I was thinking about is bringing up how difficult things are with the wife due to all the traveling, etc. If she can relate, things could escalate into something.
A sympathy play never works, makes the man look weak …
A married woman on the prowl when out of town wants to bed a man she feels is stronger than the betatized hubby she left at home watching the rugrats.
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That angle won't work either out of town or in town. Don't fake the wedding band.
True statement
I was at The Omni at The Star in Frisco this week. I was in awe of all the HB10s there.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Were those women local women or tourists? There's not much of a reason to be a tourist in Frisco, TX. There is an Omni Hotel at The Star. Frisco, TX is about as bland of suburbia as possible. Frisco locals are mostly married women.
I edited my post. It was the Omni.
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Very interesting. Apparently hot married women stay at The Omni Hotel at The Star.
The Star is where the Dallas Cowboys hold practices and train.
I always ran into German women who spoke no English when I worked in Europe. Or some close variant of that nationality. So at least you can speak the same language where you travel. If that doesn't workout, a few doors down there would always be a vodka bar or something else of that caliber and the local women would be down to meet anyone. That's an ok reference point for the states. You wonder too far off from the hotel, if you aren't in a bigger city, then you get to deal with local filth. Where I live, it's BWW where all the traveling guys frequent. Not an ideal spot to pull from.
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Invite her up. Simple as that. She either wants to or she doesn't. Women in those situations are far less likely to need much more than that if they are interested. They don't know anyone there. They can't be seen or get caught by someone. They don't have to worry about what their friends will think if they find out.
Think of all the times you were in that situation and didn't ask. Now imagine if you asked all of them. You missed out in at least 1 out of every 5 taking you up your offer most likely if you are decent looking and in shape.
You don't need any strategy, you just need to do what you do and then say something like "Well, it was really nice talking with you. I'm going to head back to my room. Care to join me?" And just look her right in the eye with a smirk. You will be amazed how many times you'll hear "yes" from something that simple.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
A lot of women get attracted to men once they are “taken”. When a man is single and on the market, women don’t like it. If a man is attached they suddenly notice how good looking he is.
Try it.
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In my heavy corporate travel days I’d always ask for a spare magnetic key. Make sure you have a nice suite on a high floor. I’d take a sharpie and write my room number on it. You can get up from your drink at the bar and say “hey it was great talking to you. The view of the city from my corner suite is something to be seen! I’m going to have a drink before I pack it in, let’s go you have to see it”. If she says no or hesitates take that card out tap it on the bar so she hears and sees it, and say “in case you change your mind”, and walk away. Wait a half hour or whatever you’d like, no show? then call the front desk and say that you lost a room key and get it rekeyed. Simple.
I did it 4-5 times it worked 3x. Usually didn’t have to do the cars trick though if you read the sentiment
I did it 4-5 times it worked 3x. Usually didn’t have to do the cars trick though if you read the sentiment
Coincidentally my friend just met a group of women who were in town for a conference staying at the Anatole in Dallas. He got one their numbers and going out with her tonight “to have fun”. Goes to show these things are pretty common.
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Yup...women view being out of town as a free ticket to fvck and suck random guys they meet without their significant others ever finding out.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.