"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Meeting fellow DJs in your area.

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I thought in light of this new forum, there should be a few guidelines to help out people trying to make planned DJ events work.

Recommended procedure for meetings:

You will want to begin planning a date and time on your specified thread. Phone conversations are also possible. (Remember to be courteous and friendly; these are your fellow DJs).

If enough of people in your area can gather into a meeting of some sort, whoever would like to administrate this event should somehow contact everyone beforehand via phone or PM.

Most importantly: BE SAFE, and KNOW WHO YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. I don't, (and I'm sure anyone else administrating these events) want to be responsible for you meeting someone who is unsafe and unpredictable. Know what you are getting into beforehand.

We all want you to have fun and grow as awesome, leading individuals but that won't happen if you get abducted because you met the wrong people. Your safety comes first.

What you should know:
  • -Know the ages of the people you are to meet.
    -Know what they will be wearing.
    -Know how many of you will be there.
    -Know when, and where, and how long the whole event should take place, and where you will go.
    -Be SURE that everyone knows who to look for in a group.
    -Let everyone know if they will need money or something else.

Remember: failing to plan is planning to fail. Plan good, have fun, and be safe. :)
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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