"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Meet the parents

DJinTraining06

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I gotta meet this girls parents soon. We went on 4 dates, and she mentioned that her parents wanna meet me. (She's 23 she lives with them)

Any tips on meeting parents? how to act, what to say, etc.

Meeting folks is prob one of the most nervewracking thigns in life for me, im so afraid of making a bad imporession, cuz girls get swayed by their families and friends opinions very quick.

Any tips on how to talk to them? my last gf's mom did not like me, i wasnt funny enuff for her apprarently. She was always saying i was quiet. But she was so dumb i couldnt ever think of anythign to talk about with her. So i dunno, maybe with more intelligent people it aint so bad. What do u guys do? Do u try and act funny? or just polite
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Show them your personality, that's what they want to see.
 

Bible_Belt

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It is a sales interview. Smile, relax, and steer conversation topics toward the other person. Look around the house for pictures on the wall or travel souvenirs that give you something to ask about to get them talking.

If you have time, flip through "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It is an old book, but it contains very fundamental advice that will advance your people skills rapidly. It's also a short book and quick to read.
 

Hitman10000

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F*ck pretending to be someone else (reading those stupid "how to be social" books) Just be friendly and be true to yourself.
 
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