"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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meet girl at apt complex...

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Had our first date went well. Took her out to eat then we went to my place and watched movies (kissed/groped). Shes 19 year old college girl, Im 28 with a high paying job and just moved to this small town. I work long hours and only hangout with my coworkers.

I'm working on staying busy...buiding balance in my life and not giving so much of my happiness % to women. Also talking to women and approaching every chance I get. So I see her after date 1 and try to kinda avoid her glance as Im sure she was going out and I was gonna stay in (no one to chill with and dont want to go out alone in this town).

How do I not look like a loser when she obviously knows I'm home while she goes partying with her college friends? Also on my off days I sometimes go clubbing in nearby big cities but cant all the time cause it gets expensive. I plan on calling her in a few days for date 2 I just dont want to appear always available when I'm off work.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You're 28 with a high paying job, what are you worried about looking like a loser for? You just moved there, so she shouldn't expect you to know everybody in town yet. Fact is: You're higher value than she is, so don't start thinking insecure.

Maybe you can find some activities/hobbies/clubs/sports/classes to meet some people at, or maybe some coworkers will be throwing some parties where you can meet some people at?

Also, note that she's 19. It's not like you're likely to be hooked up with her permanently. Who cares what she thinks? It's good that you're looking for more options.
 

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Will do

Thanks...yeah I'm working on staying busy and building up my hobbies and interests. I'm gonna continue what I'm doing and meet other girls too. She flaked out by the way, but shes young. I'll move on, still more women.
 
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