"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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meet girl at apt complex...

Begin2Live

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Had our first date went well. Took her out to eat then we went to my place and watched movies (kissed/groped). Shes 19 year old college girl, Im 28 with a high paying job and just moved to this small town. I work long hours and only hangout with my coworkers.

I'm working on staying busy...buiding balance in my life and not giving so much of my happiness % to women. Also talking to women and approaching every chance I get. So I see her after date 1 and try to kinda avoid her glance as Im sure she was going out and I was gonna stay in (no one to chill with and dont want to go out alone in this town).

How do I not look like a loser when she obviously knows I'm home while she goes partying with her college friends? Also on my off days I sometimes go clubbing in nearby big cities but cant all the time cause it gets expensive. I plan on calling her in a few days for date 2 I just dont want to appear always available when I'm off work.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zekko

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You're 28 with a high paying job, what are you worried about looking like a loser for? You just moved there, so she shouldn't expect you to know everybody in town yet. Fact is: You're higher value than she is, so don't start thinking insecure.

Maybe you can find some activities/hobbies/clubs/sports/classes to meet some people at, or maybe some coworkers will be throwing some parties where you can meet some people at?

Also, note that she's 19. It's not like you're likely to be hooked up with her permanently. Who cares what she thinks? It's good that you're looking for more options.
 

Begin2Live

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Will do

Thanks...yeah I'm working on staying busy and building up my hobbies and interests. I'm gonna continue what I'm doing and meet other girls too. She flaked out by the way, but shes young. I'll move on, still more women.
 
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