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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Meditation & Stilling the Mind

davidsonj73

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Today I started vipassana meditation. I was wondering from anyone who meditates: what tips or tricks do you use to still the mind? (Stilling the mind is a Hindu and Buddhist concept). So far, I can only go 5 minutes, but I have a future goal of 6 hours.
 

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Kotaix

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The general Zen recommendations for meditation is to focus on your posture and watch your breathing. But not just during meditation, also in everyday activities.

My meditation activity is cycling outdoors, and I find it useful to pay attention to my peripheral vision as a way to quiet my mind

But that said, having a goal during meditation is almost an oxymoron. Any grasping during the activity will lead you astray from experiencing "It".

Read Zen and the art of archery. it's short and it gives a good idea of what "It" is, and the practical way of getting there.
 
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