"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Meditation & Stilling the Mind

davidsonj73

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Today I started vipassana meditation. I was wondering from anyone who meditates: what tips or tricks do you use to still the mind? (Stilling the mind is a Hindu and Buddhist concept). So far, I can only go 5 minutes, but I have a future goal of 6 hours.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kotaix

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The general Zen recommendations for meditation is to focus on your posture and watch your breathing. But not just during meditation, also in everyday activities.

My meditation activity is cycling outdoors, and I find it useful to pay attention to my peripheral vision as a way to quiet my mind

But that said, having a goal during meditation is almost an oxymoron. Any grasping during the activity will lead you astray from experiencing "It".

Read Zen and the art of archery. it's short and it gives a good idea of what "It" is, and the practical way of getting there.
 
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