"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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killbill

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Recently I just found this out. My uncle just got me into meditations and this sh*t actually works. What you do is breathe in your nose and count it, then breate out your mouth slowly. But everytimes you breath in count it and breath out count it. you do this till you get to ten or to onehundred it doesnt matter. Well what this does is it makes you feel really relaxed. Also another way is sit up staright and think about somewhere you want to be or someone you want to talk to. breathe in and out for a few minutes daydreaming basically with your eyes opened or closed. When I do this one I pretend im at a beach with a hot chick. So anyways after I meditate I go to the local store and talk with chicks, and to let you know it actually works. it makes you calm and stuff. so give it a try.

killbill
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jesus christ, man, you're going to talk to a chick, not jump out of a plane
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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I 'meditate' before i go to bed sometimes, or even if im going through stressfull times such as exams, it really is extremly relaxing.
 

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a lot of NLP tools are basically meditations
 

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Meditation is relaxing but more importantly, it oxygenates the body. O2 is good for you. Do deep breathing even if you're not going out to chat up chicks.
 

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Marlimus said:
jesus christ, man, you're going to talk to a chick, not jump out of a plane


haha....I couldn't help laughing because that's the truth. It's just a chick.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'd have to say that the fact that you're calm makes you seem more confident and think straight.....
women can sense this and its always to your advantage to be calm cus at the same time you seem careless, thus, a challenge.
 

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LOL! This doesnt really make you more cofidente. NOt for me. PLus its weird, by the time you do it, there will be 999 guys talking to her :D
 

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well its not like to telling you guys to meditate in the goddamn club...lol
 

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If you were ever prone to having panic attacks, meditating is ...imperative.
 

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Whatever works best for you is what you should stick with. If it helps your game then by all means give 'er.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Trainspotting is very relaxing! Don't you agree? :p

So is going to the toilet and reading printouts of the latest online conspiracy theories.

But how is it practical in everyday random occurences you cannot plan? Plus if you treat a woman just like you would any other person you are likely to get further because you don't give off the vibe "this is a once in a lifetime opportunity" or "man, i'm talking to a girl this IS my lucky day".

So for getting women, unless your going to a yoga class with lots of fit chicks i'd say :down:
 

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killbill said:
Recently I just found this out. My uncle just got me into meditations and this sh*t actually works. What you do is breathe in your nose and count it, then breate out your mouth slowly. But everytimes you breath in count it and breath out count it. you do this till you get to ten or to onehundred it doesnt matter. Well what this does is it makes you feel really relaxed. Also another way is sit up staright and think about somewhere you want to be or someone you want to talk to. breathe in and out for a few minutes daydreaming basically with your eyes opened or closed. When I do this one I pretend im at a beach with a hot chick. So anyways after I meditate I go to the local store and talk with chicks, and to let you know it actually works. it makes you calm and stuff. so give it a try.

killbill
by the time you are done meditating, the girl will already be home with some other guy.
 
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