"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Me? Intimidating?

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I was talking to a girl in one of my classes today. I asked her from social standpoint how she percieves me. She said that I look intimidating and unapproachable. I don't understand. What does it mean?? I used to be less sociable especially during first couple of years of college because I am pretty self-reliant. Now that I try to talk I get nervous uneasy responses from people.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DJ Alejandro

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either of things i was before.

using too 'hard' words uncommon to the layman.

not smiling too much.

thinking too much.. alone.

tending to be 'closed' type of person in relation to posture.

don't see you having enough fun.

too opinionated.

but that's just me. before. hehe
 

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Adding to DJ Alejandro said.

What do you look like, how tall are you and whats your body type, your hair style? What type of clothes do you wear? What image do you try and project?
 

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You might also be physically intimidating. If you're like 6'3 with 230 pounds of muscle, you can scare the hell out of some one by walking in the door.

Go to a clothing store and look at yourself in a full length mirror. Do you have a "thug" or "Kick-your-ass" kind of look? Confidence is great but don't cross the line and look threatening.
 

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I used to be the same way, I am 6'3" and 205. I never would look people in the eye, I wouldnt smile, basically I was big and mean looking. so I say look people in the eye, dont look away and smile. that makes you seem so much friendlier and aproachable.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm 6'2", dark brown short and spiky hair, about 155 lbs. I don't follow any fashion trends. I dress in dark clothes which might make me look like the 80's punk type. I am looking to reinvent my look.
 

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Yeah, I'm sure its the height and dark clothes. Also can you describe your general personality and or how do you think others see you?
Do they see you as happy, mad, glad etc.
 

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Brighter colors... dark intimidates people, for some reason. Try going to A&F, or somewhere else that doesn't carry 'black' as a color. :p
 
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