"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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maybe and we'll see

Metro3pilot

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whats the best way to deal with maybe's and we'll see when asking for a date


opinions ? ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Phone her up and tell her you're picking her up in 5 minutes. If she's sincerely busy, have a buddy on backup.
 

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maybe=no.

How do you react? Just say, "We'll talk some other time when you're more sure of your schedule."

Unless she's a doctor, there is no job where she could be called at ANY time, day or night, 7 days a week, and have to show up pronto.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Maybe means "no".

Are you wishy washy and ask... "hi, do you want to go out sometime?". OR are you being direct.... "hey, i'm doing <blah blah> on Tues night - want to come along?".
 

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Yes Flexion very direct ..

Aaron .. I like that, I told her " well when you figure it out let me know if were both still availible then we will go "

I ended up having something come up and can't make it anyway ..

I must like beating my head into the wall, the one thing I have noticed with women as I age is I keep picking the same chick over and over just her name and looks change but it's the same girl I swear ...

I have turned maybe's into a yes ...never been worth the effort so far :rockon:
 

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If you are in doubt if there is sufficent IL, ask yourself what she would have said if it was Brad Pitt asking and compare that answer to what she gave you.

Now in this case, what do you think she would have said if Brad Pitt had asked her out? Most probably she would have been warming up the lube and begging him to do her in the arse.

ANYTHING besides a 'yes' is a 'no' in womaneese. Unless she really is busy and offers you a counter date, her interest level is not sufficent. Also as mentioned above, keep spinning other plates.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Next week, Arizona will play Chicago on Monday Night Football. I think the 'cards will be a nice challenge for the Bears and I look forward to watching it.
 
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