"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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maybe and we'll see

Metro3pilot

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whats the best way to deal with maybe's and we'll see when asking for a date


opinions ? ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Phone her up and tell her you're picking her up in 5 minutes. If she's sincerely busy, have a buddy on backup.
 

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maybe=no.

How do you react? Just say, "We'll talk some other time when you're more sure of your schedule."

Unless she's a doctor, there is no job where she could be called at ANY time, day or night, 7 days a week, and have to show up pronto.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Maybe means "no".

Are you wishy washy and ask... "hi, do you want to go out sometime?". OR are you being direct.... "hey, i'm doing <blah blah> on Tues night - want to come along?".
 

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Yes Flexion very direct ..

Aaron .. I like that, I told her " well when you figure it out let me know if were both still availible then we will go "

I ended up having something come up and can't make it anyway ..

I must like beating my head into the wall, the one thing I have noticed with women as I age is I keep picking the same chick over and over just her name and looks change but it's the same girl I swear ...

I have turned maybe's into a yes ...never been worth the effort so far :rockon:
 

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If you are in doubt if there is sufficent IL, ask yourself what she would have said if it was Brad Pitt asking and compare that answer to what she gave you.

Now in this case, what do you think she would have said if Brad Pitt had asked her out? Most probably she would have been warming up the lube and begging him to do her in the arse.

ANYTHING besides a 'yes' is a 'no' in womaneese. Unless she really is busy and offers you a counter date, her interest level is not sufficent. Also as mentioned above, keep spinning other plates.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Next week, Arizona will play Chicago on Monday Night Football. I think the 'cards will be a nice challenge for the Bears and I look forward to watching it.
 
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