"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Match.com: Sample Data

Boilermaker

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A friend of mine, professor at a Texas University is visiting my school for a sabbatical. He is a 30-something year old, good looking, 5 9'' , and slender, not necessarily athletic.

Upon joking about online dating sites, he decided to get a match.com account, and listed his profession as a "Teacher" (although he is also a researcher), location as "Chicago" and income as 150K (which is only slightly higher than what he makes).

In less than 2 days, he got 30 e-mails , more than 20 winks , and ~ 200 views.
The number is rising exponentially as we speak, and he has never initiated any contact himself.

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A lot of attractive 25-30 year old women are teasing him, asking him questions, and trying to get a drink ... Some of them are overly sexual and most of them are genuinely interested.

It seemed interesting and different from what people generally report about online dating,
so I thought I'd share.

It actually surprised me, as I have never seen an online fury like this for a male account.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scormus

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Social_Leper said:
Single men who have a good job should join match, play the "I just want to settle down" alpha in beta's clothing game and then clean house.

Can you give me specific pointers on how to play that game on Match?
 

SecondHalf

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Scormus said:
Can you give me specific pointers on how to play that game on Match?
It's not a game.

You just make a good profile, no meatball pictures (shirt off, picture of a fish ...), crack a couple jokes ... you're good to go.

List yourself as "seeking a relationship".
Money for sure is important. I listed the maximum and the responses were from either rich women, gold diggers or total nut jobs. Didn't have many "average" women respond to me.

When I started match, I listed my catch line as "House broken alpha male seeks companion" (which nothing could have been further from the truth) and that really helped the views I think.

Do a couple top tens (one turnons - romantic crap, one turnoffs - make the turnoffs funny).

After that, just let them do the work.

SH
 

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Have him change his income to 30K and see what happens. Higher income is to women what large, perky t&a are to men.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Scormus

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MikeOck said:
Have him change his income to 30K and see what happens. Higher income is to women what large, perky t&a are to men.
Anyone can just lie though? Listing a high income in itself needs to be backed up by visible proof e.g. cars, nice place
 

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I was on Match for quite a while and when I increased my income by $25,000 and added 1" to my height I generated a lot more interest.
 

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More lies = more snatch.

Experiment with "$28,000 income, lives with elderly parent and 5 cats", and see how many replies come in. I bet it'll be zero. That online dating shıt is fücked up.
 
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It's strictly all income.

Obviously something to do with looks... but believe me, it's the income.
Them hoees be paper chasin.
 
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