Masturbation & Porn Addiction?

[Dogfish]

Hey.
I tried to get into djing 3 years ago, but then it didn't really work out, although it did built confidence.

Anyhow, I have now had a girlfriend for 7 months, and it is a very trusting and loving relationship.
I am a soldier (in Germany) so I only see her on the weekends.

We have sex or make out like 2 times on the weekends, or more often on vacation, but I always find myself going back to the old right hand, or to countless porn websites.
More weirdly, I only jack off on weekends, when I actually have sex, or on days I had sex.

So the problem is now that I think I might be somewhat addicted to porn after all those lonely years, and it doesn't even really satisfy me.

So what can I do? Is this really just a mind thing like giving up smoking? Can you give me some advice or anything?

Thanks a lot.

 

[Eugene123]

Being addicted to anything is horrible. I myself used to be addicted to porn... What I did to stop my addiction was to keep myself busy. I found myself hanging out with my right hand more often on a day where I had nothing to do than a day where I had things to do.

Try picking up a hobby or something to keep yourself busy.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Addiction has a neurological cause. Have more sex with the gf, or better sex.

 

[mrRuckus]

You are not addicted to anything.

 

[Dogfish]

Yeah its no addiction, because otherwise I guess i would feel physically bad if I didn't jack off.

Its self-control in the end. Keep me going.

 

[thedeparted]

Can be a stress reaction. You jack off to relieve stress, maybe even stress your g/f is causing. Substitute exercise instead. Keep a log and note when you j/o. At the end of the mo. if you were good give yourself a reward. Then when you are tempted you'll think about giving up that reward and decide not to. You can also give yourself a punishment after you do, like some soap in the mouth. Your body will stop wanting to j/o when it learns bad things will follow. These are basic psychological principles.

 

[IBangedurGirl]

It's out of habit it sounds like. Stop for 20 days, then see where you stand.
good luck

 

[mrRuckus]

What's the problem? You don't even have a problem. What's wrong with masturbating if it's not keeping you from living the rest of your life?

 

[scribblec]

ive got it even worse, getting high then j/o > better then normal j/o

so i tend not to j/o if im not high on cannabis, when i am i just cant help my self

 

[LoneSilver]

I just read this yesterday in the Archives called Buffers by Rollo maybe this will help you see it for what it really is.

LoneSilver

Pornography I realize this will draw some fire from the masturbation / no-masturbation set here, but porn (as men use it) is a Buffer against rejection. Porn doesn't talk back, porn doesn't need a few drinks to loosen up nor does porn require any social skills to produce rewards. It's convenient, immediate, sexual release that requires nothing more than a PC and an internet connection (or a magazine if you prefer the analog means). We can argue the obsessive-compulsive aspect of it, or the "my GF and I enjoy porn together" reasoning, but for the single guy the root reasoning is it's facility as a Buffer. I should also add that it's this very facility that makes women hate it (when they do). Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It's unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability.

I'm not saying don't enjoy porn, but know that it is a Buffer that will limit the development of your maturity if it goes unchecked.