I just want to say that krav maga has been the best for me, building my confidence and I have actually have gotten good at cardio exercises like jumping rope and running, which I used to hate. The training is fun & very hands on!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
haha that was awesome.speakeasy said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bro...you responded before I could edit my post..haha...Agree. BJJ is pure ground fighting. But like I said, most street fights will end up on the ground. If you can't wrestle and are fighting against a guy with even so-so jits, he's gonna break your arm. Also, for all around conditioning - BJJ is great. Similar to wrestling, you condition yourself against another person. Muscle vs muscle conditioning. I agree, BJJ is not a complete art. I recommend people who want to train BJJ is to complement it with a striking art like Muay Thai. Find a school that can transition from strking to clinching to wrestling to Muay Thai. BJJ is a great martial arts base.speakeasy said:I wouldn't consider BJJ to be "all around fighting". It's just ground fighting. What if you go head to head with a dude like Chuck Lidell who is good at avoiding take downs? Then you're screwed. If a BJJ practitioner can't get his opponent to the ground, he has NOTHING. So I wouldn't call BJJ "all around", it's excellent at what it does, but it's not complete.