I just want to say that krav maga has been the best for me, building my confidence and I have actually have gotten good at cardio exercises like jumping rope and running, which I used to hate. The training is fun & very hands on!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
haha that was awesome.speakeasy said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bro...you responded before I could edit my post..haha...Agree. BJJ is pure ground fighting. But like I said, most street fights will end up on the ground. If you can't wrestle and are fighting against a guy with even so-so jits, he's gonna break your arm. Also, for all around conditioning - BJJ is great. Similar to wrestling, you condition yourself against another person. Muscle vs muscle conditioning. I agree, BJJ is not a complete art. I recommend people who want to train BJJ is to complement it with a striking art like Muay Thai. Find a school that can transition from strking to clinching to wrestling to Muay Thai. BJJ is a great martial arts base.speakeasy said:I wouldn't consider BJJ to be "all around fighting". It's just ground fighting. What if you go head to head with a dude like Chuck Lidell who is good at avoiding take downs? Then you're screwed. If a BJJ practitioner can't get his opponent to the ground, he has NOTHING. So I wouldn't call BJJ "all around", it's excellent at what it does, but it's not complete.