I just want to say that krav maga has been the best for me, building my confidence and I have actually have gotten good at cardio exercises like jumping rope and running, which I used to hate. The training is fun & very hands on!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
haha that was awesome.speakeasy said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bro...you responded before I could edit my post..haha...Agree. BJJ is pure ground fighting. But like I said, most street fights will end up on the ground. If you can't wrestle and are fighting against a guy with even so-so jits, he's gonna break your arm. Also, for all around conditioning - BJJ is great. Similar to wrestling, you condition yourself against another person. Muscle vs muscle conditioning. I agree, BJJ is not a complete art. I recommend people who want to train BJJ is to complement it with a striking art like Muay Thai. Find a school that can transition from strking to clinching to wrestling to Muay Thai. BJJ is a great martial arts base.speakeasy said:I wouldn't consider BJJ to be "all around fighting". It's just ground fighting. What if you go head to head with a dude like Chuck Lidell who is good at avoiding take downs? Then you're screwed. If a BJJ practitioner can't get his opponent to the ground, he has NOTHING. So I wouldn't call BJJ "all around", it's excellent at what it does, but it's not complete.