pyros
Master Don Juan
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Hi.
A) It is not that I'm a wussy. I should have been harder with the 'having dinner at her parent's everyday' thing but I have to admit that I was alone in her country so she had a lot of reasons to have dinner there: we save money, we dont cook, I want to be with my parents, etc etc.
She's 'in charge' well, I don't know. There are a few things like the one I just mentioned before that she did not want to change, but she's always been very nice to me, dunno.
It seems there were a few final things that there was no way to modify, and I'm afraid there will be more. On the other hand she has a lot of good qualities I really like.
I guess it would have been better or it would have helped me if I had had some short term relationships before her, but I did not. Anyway, many of my friends have banged some girls but they haven't had any gf or anything that lasted more than two dates. Isn't that weird too?
I broke up with her because I was scared of all this stuff plus her health condition, plus this 'red flags', but that was less important at that time. I got back with her because I wanted to, because I did not break up because I really wanted to do it.
When we moved in together, we had an argument a couple of times and after that she left the apartment (at night) so I went right after her.
But, half a year later this happened twice again, we had a fight and she run away from me, and I did not chase her. I just said I'm leaving in 15 mins so if you're not here I'll go without you. And she came back in 5-10 mins.
B)
I wanted to ask, I mean, people spin plates because they are not so good plates, because if you did find one you really like then it would become a relationship, so you have a gf, so you don't have to spin anymore.
So let's say you spin for a while, and then you meet this wonderful girl which becomes your gf. You are together for 5 years and talk about marriage, but she's your first and only gf. If the relationship is good, but you do not have anything to compare it to, what the heck yo do?
you cannot compare it unless you've had a few gf's before this one.
So you must have had one, two or three gf's before, but if gf #1 had been good enough, you would not have gone to #2,
so spining plates implies that you must have bad luck several times until you find something great...some day. But what if you find it with gf #1? or #2? really, I would not like to have many gf's until I find my wife. The process of getting to know each other, dating, and breaking up is not nice and it hurts. So why would you like to repeat it?
there are ppl that spin plates over and over and never find something they really like, so they go break up after break up.
There are other ppl that date a couple of persons and they get married, and are quite happy.
So the theory of spining plates means in other words, you're dating average girls, with no so high value for you; because if they did, then you would stop spining.
Or am I retarded? lol
P.S.
a different story is when you just want to make out or bang as many girls as you want.
A) It is not that I'm a wussy. I should have been harder with the 'having dinner at her parent's everyday' thing but I have to admit that I was alone in her country so she had a lot of reasons to have dinner there: we save money, we dont cook, I want to be with my parents, etc etc.
She's 'in charge' well, I don't know. There are a few things like the one I just mentioned before that she did not want to change, but she's always been very nice to me, dunno.
It seems there were a few final things that there was no way to modify, and I'm afraid there will be more. On the other hand she has a lot of good qualities I really like.
I guess it would have been better or it would have helped me if I had had some short term relationships before her, but I did not. Anyway, many of my friends have banged some girls but they haven't had any gf or anything that lasted more than two dates. Isn't that weird too?
I broke up with her because I was scared of all this stuff plus her health condition, plus this 'red flags', but that was less important at that time. I got back with her because I wanted to, because I did not break up because I really wanted to do it.
When we moved in together, we had an argument a couple of times and after that she left the apartment (at night) so I went right after her.
But, half a year later this happened twice again, we had a fight and she run away from me, and I did not chase her. I just said I'm leaving in 15 mins so if you're not here I'll go without you. And she came back in 5-10 mins.
B)
I wanted to ask, I mean, people spin plates because they are not so good plates, because if you did find one you really like then it would become a relationship, so you have a gf, so you don't have to spin anymore.
So let's say you spin for a while, and then you meet this wonderful girl which becomes your gf. You are together for 5 years and talk about marriage, but she's your first and only gf. If the relationship is good, but you do not have anything to compare it to, what the heck yo do?
you cannot compare it unless you've had a few gf's before this one.
So you must have had one, two or three gf's before, but if gf #1 had been good enough, you would not have gone to #2,
so spining plates implies that you must have bad luck several times until you find something great...some day. But what if you find it with gf #1? or #2? really, I would not like to have many gf's until I find my wife. The process of getting to know each other, dating, and breaking up is not nice and it hurts. So why would you like to repeat it?
there are ppl that spin plates over and over and never find something they really like, so they go break up after break up.
There are other ppl that date a couple of persons and they get married, and are quite happy.
So the theory of spining plates means in other words, you're dating average girls, with no so high value for you; because if they did, then you would stop spining.
Or am I retarded? lol
P.S.
a different story is when you just want to make out or bang as many girls as you want.