"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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refuelling79

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a new quest began a year ago...the lady is 7 years older than me..i met her in the office and then text her in the evening same day that i got some positive vibes,so we should get together sometime..prompt came the call..fixed up the meeting..met her in a coffee shop..this scenario of meeting went for 5-6 months..given india's scenario..bam..one day she told me that she was married..did not believe her and thought may be she wants a break up..said to her that it does not matter to me at all as i cared only about her..one day i took her home one day and had a bit of foreplay for which a little cajoling had to be done...took her home again and one day again...each time a lot of cajoling had to be done...then yesterday when i and her were alone, she again resisted my moves...i just put my hands off her and said that it was not acceptable..she replied that she refrains from doing "it" as she is married and she some time to be prepared...i said okay and then we had lunch together and dropped her off....
though i made my reasoning from her behaviour, i would like to know the views of more experienced esteemed friends of sosuave.com to cite their opinions regarding the same...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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refuelling79

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zarky my dear bro, i was also on that line of thought, but was a bit confused..could you please elaborate your reasons and suggest what strategy i should employ now...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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your being messed with, you have wasted about 6 months of you life...for what? a bit of a grope? with a bit of a nutjob?
 

refuelling79

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my dear fellow buddies haven't read the text i posted in the thread carefully...i took her home thrice in six months and pardon me for not telling before..we had only 2 dates before that...on the first date i paid and on the second she paid...in the meanwhile, i was also dating other women..so i think now my buddies will change the opinion about myself wasting a hell lot of time..:)
 

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Depends if your definition of foreplay includes her sucking your ****.

If not, you're wasting time.

A couple of years back, I got involved with a married woman from my office. Started with an e-mail spark and went from there.

Blowing your load inside a married woman is an incredible feeling.

Then after a month or so, she "remembered she was married". Wanted to keep in touch as friends, but I wasn't having any of that ****.

Fortunately, I was working away from the office on a temporary 6 month assignment and by the time I came back, she had gone (as she was only a temp in the first place).

Last thing I heard, she and her husband had a son, and I had moved on, so it all worked out well in the end.
 

Falcon25

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The woman is married and you are still pursuing her? How about you stop being a stupid fuvking **** and get YOUR OWN woman? Get your own girl. It will make you feel better about yourself. You do understand that this is a life or death matter??? Are you this much of a weak man that you can't get your own girl? Come on man. What's the matter with you. Married women are off limits.
 
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