"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Married. How many guys have a side dish ?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I’m not referring to me. No I don’t have a woman on the side.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I also would question the reason to marry? why you did it? if she is not enough why put it up with her at all?
remember me what I heard from some friends over and over, with the girl manipulating then to marry then, giving ultimatums and the hell of it, and they put up with it
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I agree.... I keep telling my friend I don’t know why he wants to deal with the drama of an affair. One girl is enough and if your looking for side action get a high end escort that won’t form a crazy emotional attachment
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
I might go to Vegas and get a hooker or something maybe.
A woman in our circle of friends was caught about ten years ago. Her and the H split for about seven months then reconciled. He actually just passed away from cancer about four months ago. Aged 49 way too young.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If there's a problem within the marriage - work it out like a man.
If the marriage is ending - work it out until it ends. Fight for it.
If the wife cheated on you - end the marriage and fvck around like a champion!
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Everyone in the room? Sure you werent in Vegas?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Did wife cut you off sex near end? Did addition of the side piece raise the wifes desire?
They all get caught in the end and the shietstorm that ensued will tear into the family fabric.
Children always almost end up the main victims.
Which is why men in marriages shouldn't contemplate cheating.
If a wife somehow ain't providing sex then simply state to her that u r a man with desires you can't control nor subdue it due to ur inherent biological nature as a male - it's a simple fact that she needs to understand you will stray and that contributes towards the ending of a marriage.
I've adviced this to a few married women I personally know - and getting the hint they are now more gladly spreading their legs to keep their men compliant in their marriages.
Win - win situation.
Good advice but it's just not in my makeup to let something go unpunished. I prefer to **** around, let her find out, get the reaction, then leave her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Do whatever makes you feel happy in the end.
It's the results you desire that matters and not the details.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
He should stop helping her if shes not fvcking.
Confrontational stances doesn't work in the long run.
Which is why discussion pertaining to masculine needs is a waste of time as it always ends up with a fight and the man losing.
This creates bitterness.
Just make a statement and stick to it.
Do not negotiate the rights of manhood.
No discussion is required once you've steadfast in your stances.
The moment you discuss it is the moment you entered into a negotiation stage and that is the moment you as a man loses power.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
my position was NOT confrontational. While shes not doing her part he should stop supporting her. I mean we cant force her to fvck daily. But once a week for 15 minutes as a minimum and to get some support and kindness out of them.
And how did being confrontational work out for you in your past ?
Don't take this as me dissing you but take it as me asking the hard questions that no one seems to want to ask themselves.
If the result is failure then it's a waste of time.
A man must always think of ways in any situation to come out of it profitable.
When you do something there's always an equal and opposite reaction.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.