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Married. How many guys have a side dish ?

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Just like the title says. Any married guys here have sex outside the marriage ? Something. Extra?
 

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I was married for three years but never did. I'm no good at covering my tracks and keeping track of stories, if that makes sense.
 

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I have married friends and 98 percent of them have strayed. My best friend does it non stop. He had a 3 year affair with another married woman. Just hearing the stories stressed me out. His affair partner would get jealous when him and his wife would go on vacations trips. He had to start lying to her... he would be on vacation and pretending to be up for work at 6 emailing her. If I were to get married I would be too lazy to pull off a side dish. It’s too much work, too much bs, and way too much risk. You never know when the side dish will show up on your door step!
 

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I really don't see the point of getting something on the side, one is already annoying enough don't need another to add to that.
I also would question the reason to marry? why you did it? if she is not enough why put it up with her at all?

remember me what I heard from some friends over and over, with the girl manipulating then to marry then, giving ultimatums and the hell of it, and they put up with it
 

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I really don't see the point of getting something on the side, one is already annoying enough don't need another to add to that.
I also would question the reason to marry? why you did it? if she is not enough why put it up with her at all?

remember me what I heard from some friends over and over, with the girl manipulating then to marry then, giving ultimatums and the hell of it, and they put up with it
I agree.... I keep telling my friend I don’t know why he wants to deal with the drama of an affair. One girl is enough and if your looking for side action get a high end escort that won’t form a crazy emotional attachment
 

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I'm married and I have not cheated yet. I got a blow job back when we were engaged, but that didn't really count, she blew everybody in the room hahaha. I would imagine that I never will, at least in the real world, because that means you have to actually have a relationship, which is something I don't want to deal with. There's no way I would not get caught.

I might go to Vegas and get a hooker or something maybe.
 

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I’ve had a few married guy friends jump off the Marriage wagon. But they didn’t get caught yet.
A woman in our circle of friends was caught about ten years ago. Her and the H split for about seven months then reconciled. He actually just passed away from cancer about four months ago. Aged 49 way too young.
 

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When a man is married he should not be having any side dish at all.

If there's a problem within the marriage - work it out like a man.

If the marriage is ending - work it out until it ends. Fight for it.

If the wife cheated on you - end the marriage and fvck around like a champion!
 

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I'm married and I have not cheated yet. I got a blow job back when we were engaged, but that didn't really count, she blew everybody in the room hahaha. I would imagine that I never will, at least in the real world, because that means you have to actually have a relationship, which is something I don't want to deal with. There's no way I would not get caught.

I might go to Vegas and get a hooker or something maybe.
Everyone in the room? Sure you werent in Vegas?
 

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I have married friends and 98 percent of them have strayed. My best friend does it non stop. He had a 3 year affair with another married woman. Just hearing the stories stressed me out. His affair partner would get jealous when him and his wife would go on vacations trips. He had to start lying to her... he would be on vacation and pretending to be up for work at 6 emailing her. If I were to get married I would be too lazy to pull off a side dish. It’s too much work, too much bs, and way too much risk. You never know when the side dish will show up on your door step!
Wow, when you start lying to your goomar because you're spending time with your wife...that's when it becomes a real house of mirrors.
 

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Wow, when you start lying to your goomar because you're spending time with your wife...that's when it becomes a real house of mirrors.
They all get caught in the end and the shietstorm that ensued will tear into the family fabric.

Children always almost end up the main victims.

Which is why men in marriages shouldn't contemplate cheating.

If a wife somehow ain't providing sex then simply state to her that u r a man with desires you can't control nor subdue it due to ur inherent biological nature as a male - it's a simple fact that she needs to understand you will stray and that contributes towards the ending of a marriage.

I've adviced this to a few married women I personally know - and getting the hint they are now more gladly spreading their legs to keep their men compliant in their marriages.

Win - win situation.
 
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When a man is married he should not be having any side dish at all.

If there's a problem within the marriage - work it out like a man.

If the marriage is ending - work it out until it ends. Fight for it.

If the wife cheated on you - end the marriage and fvck around like a champion!
Good advice but it's just not in my makeup to let something go unpunished. I prefer to **** around, let her find out, get the reaction, then leave her.
 

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Good advice but it's just not in my makeup to let something go unpunished. I prefer to **** around, let her find out, get the reaction, then leave her.
Do whatever makes you feel happy in the end.

It's the results you desire that matters and not the details.
 

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They all get caught in the end and the shietstorm that ensued will tear into the family fabric.

Children always almost end up the main victims.

Which is why men in marriages shouldn't contemplate cheating.

If a wife somehow ain't providing sex then simply state to her that u r a man with desires you can't control nor subdue it due to ur inherent biological nature as a male - it's a simple fact that she needs to understand you will stray and that contributes towards the ending of a marriage.

I've adviced this to a few married women I personally know - and getting the hint they are now more gladly spreading their legs to keep their men compliant in their marriages.

Win - win situation.
He should stop helping her if shes not fvcking.
 

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He should stop helping her if shes not fvcking.
Confrontational stances doesn't work in the long run.

Which is why discussion pertaining to masculine needs is a waste of time as it always ends up with a fight and the man losing.

This creates bitterness.

Just make a statement and stick to it.

Do not negotiate the rights of manhood.

No discussion is required once you've steadfast in your stances.

The moment you discuss it is the moment you entered into a negotiation stage and that is the moment you as a man loses power.
 
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