"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Marriage Counselling: Does it work?

Desdinova

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I've got a buddy who got married 10 months ago because she was pregnant (I know, a bad idea). Anyway, the arguements have escalated and she's thrown out the D word a couple of times already. He's been going to anger management classes and 5hit, but she's not doing a fvcking thing to help the relationship. He's currently staying with his father.

For those of you who have had counselling, did it have any kind of positive effect on your relationship, or did it do nothing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I haven't been trough it, but in the present cas, it's a lost cause. Tell him the D word is the only word he should know.
 

dietzcoi

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Mine did not.

And yes, it is mostly a ploy to bend the man to the woman's needs.

it seems to be the man who is wrong 95% of the time, unless you get a good counselor.

Even male counselors a like this. No shortage of CPT-SAVE-A-Hoe's in our society.

Dietzcoi
 

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411 on counseling

This is not a marriage forum!!......but........

Tell your buddy to go to www.retrovaille.org

It will help. I have done the counseling thing for years and I ended up getting divorced anyways. It helped for a while but not for the long haul
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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