"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Marriage Counselling: Does it work?

Desdinova

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I've got a buddy who got married 10 months ago because she was pregnant (I know, a bad idea). Anyway, the arguements have escalated and she's thrown out the D word a couple of times already. He's been going to anger management classes and 5hit, but she's not doing a fvcking thing to help the relationship. He's currently staying with his father.

For those of you who have had counselling, did it have any kind of positive effect on your relationship, or did it do nothing?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I haven't been trough it, but in the present cas, it's a lost cause. Tell him the D word is the only word he should know.
 

dietzcoi

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Mine did not.

And yes, it is mostly a ploy to bend the man to the woman's needs.

it seems to be the man who is wrong 95% of the time, unless you get a good counselor.

Even male counselors a like this. No shortage of CPT-SAVE-A-Hoe's in our society.

Dietzcoi
 

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411 on counseling

This is not a marriage forum!!......but........

Tell your buddy to go to www.retrovaille.org

It will help. I have done the counseling thing for years and I ended up getting divorced anyways. It helped for a while but not for the long haul
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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