Marriage 2.0

[Serenity]

There are certain things I don't like to do. I don't like cleaning toilets. Meanwhile, she doesn't like to take out the trash. That's just a very small example, but there are advantages.

Who really likes cleaning toilets or taking out the trash though? Bad examples, but yes there are advantages, I'm living with my girlfriend so I know.

Anyways, it was a response to point 3 of OP's post. Pointing out how everything is kept super separate as if it's 2 thieves trying to live together, so what's the point calling it a relationship?

 

[zekko]

Anyways, it was a response to point 3 of OP's post. Pointing out how everything is kept super separate as if it's 2 thieves trying to live together, so what's the point calling it a relationship?

I see what you're saying now, I wasn't taking it in context. Since we're talking about an alternative to marriage here (or more specifically divorce), the idea is just to keep your finances separate. In a divorce, usually the government comes in and freezes your assets and decides how they will be distributed.

The idea here is to avoid the third party interference and allow for a simpler, easier split - IF it should happen. From a practical standpoint, I don't really see why you would need or want a joint account anyway.

I don't mind taking out the trash though, doesn't take very long.

I didn't know you were cohabitating, Grewd. It's a pretty unpopular idea around here, although I'm enjoying it well enough.

 

[wifehunter]

What's the point? It's doomed to fail anyway! 50% failure rate is a grade of F.

There is no hope, when people worship themselves, instead of the One who created/instituted marriage.

You're better off, with your casual sex. At least, you get some.

 

[Serenity]

I see what you're saying now, I wasn't taking it in context. Since we're talking about an alternative to marriage here (or more specifically divorce), the idea is just to keep your finances separate. In a divorce, usually the government comes in and freezes your assets and decides how they will be distributed.

The idea here is to avoid the third party interference and allow for a simpler, easier split - IF it should happen. From a practical standpoint, I don't really see why you would need or want a joint account anyway.

I don't mind taking out the trash though, doesn't take very long.

I didn't know you were cohabitating, Grewd. It's a pretty unpopular idea around here, although I'm enjoying it well enough.

Well, actually point 3 isn't stupid. It's just the underlying "mine and yours" mentality. I don't share an account with my girlfriend, but we spend it as if both our money is shared.

Yes I am cohabitating, I never cared for what this forum considers popular or not. In my opinion it's fear that keeps others from doing it too. A rational fear, but completely staying away from potential danger is not as helpful as learning how to deal with it.

Many guys just conclude that they're not gonna have relationships at all. They fear the things we often discuss on this forum. I don't fear it, I'm just aware of it. I use all I know to predict the chance of bad outcomes and always know what to do in a worst case scenario. It's not naive and it's not pessimistic either, I get a sense that many guys on this forum is more on the pessimistic side.

 

[bigneil]

What's the point? It's doomed to fail anyway! 50% failure rate is a grade of F.

There is no hope, when people worship themselves, instead of the One who created/instituted marriage.

You're better off, with your casual sex. At least, you get some.

Exactly!

When people say "She's too young - if you get married it's doomed to fail" I said "Thats the case with every marriage, so why not marry a hottie?"

 

[bigneil]

Anyways, it was a response to point 3 of OP's post. Pointing out how everything is kept super separate as if it's 2 thieves trying to live together, so what's the point calling it a relationship?

This is like saying "Why sign an NDA with your new company - if they trust you you shouldn't need that"!

And it's not 2 thieves - there is only her.

 

[Serenity]

This is like saying "Why sign an NDA with your new company - if they trust you you shouldn't need that"!

And it's not 2 thieves - there is only her.

True, if you need NDA then I would not hire them. It is 2 thieves, men are not saints.