PeasantPlayer
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I agree.
And if she's not putting out? Guys gonna hang around to gas her head up.Women can be boring as hell and the IQ of Forrest Gump but still have 100 guys trying to get at them if they have a nice ass. Boring and unattractive women are single, not the boring hot ones.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Even they get options, maybw not Chads but still optionsWomen can be boring as hell and the IQ of Forrest Gump but still have 100 guys trying to get at them if they have a nice ass. Boring and unattractive women are single, not the boring hot ones.
Yes I aree though many guys are even more boring because all they do is to chase boring women.
Thus is true as wellYes I aree though many guys are even more boring because all they do is to chase boring women.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what does this mean 'female fussiness in relation to her own looks level' ?Female fussiness in relation to her own looks level is the primary reason why women are single, not boringness. A boring woman who is a 5-6 who puts out regularly and has reasonable expectations will typically be in a relationships. She might have short gaps in between things, but she'll rarely be lacking for sex.
Not at all. Female fussiness means that lets say an average looking woman (5) demands to only have sex or get into relationships with males rating 7.5+ or higher. Men are likely to have sex with her but probably won't commit to her. If she's using swipe apps, she's getting plenty of attention from men but focusing upon the higher level men while ignoring the 5.5-7 level guys, who might actually be better fits for her longer term.what does this mean 'female fussiness in relation to her own looks level' ?
I feel this is a stupid question (feel stupid for asking)
Does this mean she's waiting too long for selfimprovements (life, personality and attractiveness) to be finished and completed before approaching more guys?
ok.Not at all. Female fussiness means that lets say an average looking woman (5) demands to only have sex or get into relationships with males rating 7.5+ or higher. Men are likely to have sex with her but probably won't commit to her. If she's using swipe apps, she's getting plenty of attention from men but focusing upon the higher level men while ignoring the 5.5-7 level guys, who might actually be better fits for her longer term.
I can give examples of female fusiness in relation to her own looks level from my personal life.
A few years back, I had a co-worker. She's 36 now, and at the time she was my co-worker, she was 32-33. During her time as my co-worker, she experienced a breakup. She is 5'1" and maybe about a 6 in looks. She did gain some weight as her romantic relationship was going down the tubes in her first year in this company as my co-worker. Anyway, she refused to date anyone who was under 6'0". She's 5'1". That's totally unreasonable. She also had other aesthetics and personal attribute standards that were also unreal. She's had a very rocky relational history. She's never married and no children.
Another woman, who was once a friend (there was a falling out) of my closest friend's gf (now wife), had similar issues. She's 32 now, and at the time I knew her she was 24-26. She is also 5'1". She also refused to consider anyone below 6'0". She turned down a 6'4" ex NCAA swimmer with a good body and great job (white male and she is white) who wanted her big time. She also turned me down for being 5'10". She moved away from my city, returning to the area where she spent her childhood. I last saw her 5 years ago. When I last saw her 5 years ago on a return visit to my city, she had improved her fitness, having a sexy feminine musculature, and had a quality tan. Even still, for her to demand only 6'0"+ men is unreasonable. She's attractive. I would have called her a 6 when she lived in my city, and a 7 in her most recent social media pictures that I can see from 1-2 years ago. She's never married, no children, and had some relationship issues as well.
I know a couple of other fit women from sports leagues I participated in years ago who seem to perpetually have a presence on swipe apps. They are now in their early to mid 30s. Years ago, in their mid 20s, I was interested in both of them but never got anywhere with either. It doesn't seem like they've accomplished much in the 5+ years since I've seen either of them in person. They've probably gotten more notches, but I doubt either has had a romantic relationship of 1 year or longer in that time. I'm sure that they've passed up some great options. I'd say that I would be one of those quality options, but I'm sure there are many more besides me that they've passed up.
Women are deeply insecure about their looks. This is always true.ok.
I thought you meant her judging herself. Potential LSE or lack of selfconfidence/self-perfectionism issues
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ok. I thought you meant her judging herself. Potential LSE or lack of selfconfidence/self-perfectionism issues.
Self esteem has been emphasized immensely since the 1990s, especially to young girls in elementary and high schools.Women are deeply insecure about their looks. This is always true.
Agree with this. If a woman can discuss interests, intellectual things and so forth and relate to men (women familiar with men and “man stuff” or “man speak” often do this naturally) then there will be a natural affinity toward her by men.Anecdotally, I found that women that have at least one brother and/or are tomboy-ish often have better personalities. They understand and can appreciate guy humor.
Actually, they are not. Many women are not single because they are boring. Some people, being men or women have no communication skills. In my opinion, if she gives you sex , she is not boring at all. You should stop blaming women for x reasons to justify rejection.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.