I'm 22 years old. A manager. Im coming off a breakup where I had a beta backslide... bad. How do I ask out just an entry level sales girl. I work in retail @ nordstrom. I think I could get in trouble for asking her out on the clock. But who knows. She's cute I figure it is worth a try. Advice?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
manager asking out entry level girls at work
- Thread starter benogan
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
command her. Tell her u want to see her in your office. Then engage her in light conversation about who she is and where she lives then ask her what she is doing over the weekend. If she says she does not know tell her that you take out entry level people for drinks as a ritual and then when u are out with her continue the small talk then isolate her and make a move.
j0504s
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EASY, invite her for drinks, simply as that...dont take her on a "date" its to much preasure and expectation for her as she is new and you have authority...casually invite her out for drinks...you know her schedulle... so suggest it when u know shes not working...
its only too soon if you make it seem that way. You have to believe your own bullsh1t before the females do. Waiting till she settles in , I would only advise that if he is the slightly shy type and wants to approach using social circle game but good luck with that if you have no personality. She will respect your boldness if you strike early.Blinkers said:
oh yeah one more thing. ...make sure you are mentally prepared for any awkwardness that may ensue in the aftermath of this whole debacle. If you keep things straight and show maturity u will be fine.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It’s a tough call, I'll concede that much.YAboi said:
Anywhere else like at your usual gym, country club or sports centre; get to it straight away but at work, as the manager. Just seems like an abuse of power, or could lead to that claim if it goes wrong. Be interested in knowing what happens…
Bible_Belt
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The way the laws about sexual harassment are written, even if she likes you and enjoys dating/fvcking you, it is STILL sexual harassment simply because you are her boss. At any time, she can complain, get you fired, and probably get a nice cash settlement from the store.
abe0
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Listen and read that over and over again!!!! Get your Winnie wet somewhere else and do not date co workers specially if you are above her! AbeBible_Belt said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
gravityeyelids
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Then you're good to go brothabenogan said:
Maximus Rex
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Y'all Need to Quit
You as supervisor asking a subordinate out? Didn't in the sexual harassment training they specifically told y'all not to do that? Any way, to answer your question, you don't ask her out. Go holla at chicks that that work next door at Bloomingdales, Brooks Brothers, Macy*s or something. I'm just waiting for the day to come when dumb f*ck comes in here talking about how he hooked with with a chick he works with, it didn't work out, now he's out of a job.benogan said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
marmel75
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I wouldn't do it until you've updated your resume and sent it in to at least 20 places cause you will be getting fired soon enough if you go through with this...
Trust me when I say this almost always ends badly and the company will never buy your side of the story
Trust me when I say this almost always ends badly and the company will never buy your side of the story
Maximus Rex
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Gone and F*ck This Chick If You Want To
You're f*cking hard headed and it seems that you have your heart on f*cking this chick. It seems that you just want people to co-sign and give you advice on something that you already had in in mind, with the being said, at least take this bit of advice,benogan said:
marmel75 said: