I'm 22 years old. A manager. Im coming off a breakup where I had a beta backslide... bad. How do I ask out just an entry level sales girl. I work in retail @ nordstrom. I think I could get in trouble for asking her out on the clock. But who knows. She's cute I figure it is worth a try. Advice?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
manager asking out entry level girls at work
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
command her. Tell her u want to see her in your office. Then engage her in light conversation about who she is and where she lives then ask her what she is doing over the weekend. If she says she does not know tell her that you take out entry level people for drinks as a ritual and then when u are out with her continue the small talk then isolate her and make a move.
j0504s
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EASY, invite her for drinks, simply as that...dont take her on a "date" its to much preasure and expectation for her as she is new and you have authority...casually invite her out for drinks...you know her schedulle... so suggest it when u know shes not working...
its only too soon if you make it seem that way. You have to believe your own bullsh1t before the females do. Waiting till she settles in , I would only advise that if he is the slightly shy type and wants to approach using social circle game but good luck with that if you have no personality. She will respect your boldness if you strike early.Blinkers said:
oh yeah one more thing. ...make sure you are mentally prepared for any awkwardness that may ensue in the aftermath of this whole debacle. If you keep things straight and show maturity u will be fine.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It’s a tough call, I'll concede that much.YAboi said:
Anywhere else like at your usual gym, country club or sports centre; get to it straight away but at work, as the manager. Just seems like an abuse of power, or could lead to that claim if it goes wrong. Be interested in knowing what happens…
Bible_Belt
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The way the laws about sexual harassment are written, even if she likes you and enjoys dating/fvcking you, it is STILL sexual harassment simply because you are her boss. At any time, she can complain, get you fired, and probably get a nice cash settlement from the store.
abe0
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Listen and read that over and over again!!!! Get your Winnie wet somewhere else and do not date co workers specially if you are above her! AbeBible_Belt said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
gravityeyelids
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Then you're good to go brothabenogan said:
Maximus Rex
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Y'all Need to Quit
You as supervisor asking a subordinate out? Didn't in the sexual harassment training they specifically told y'all not to do that? Any way, to answer your question, you don't ask her out. Go holla at chicks that that work next door at Bloomingdales, Brooks Brothers, Macy*s or something. I'm just waiting for the day to come when dumb f*ck comes in here talking about how he hooked with with a chick he works with, it didn't work out, now he's out of a job.benogan said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
marmel75
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I wouldn't do it until you've updated your resume and sent it in to at least 20 places cause you will be getting fired soon enough if you go through with this...
Trust me when I say this almost always ends badly and the company will never buy your side of the story
Trust me when I say this almost always ends badly and the company will never buy your side of the story
Maximus Rex
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Gone and F*ck This Chick If You Want To
You're f*cking hard headed and it seems that you have your heart on f*cking this chick. It seems that you just want people to co-sign and give you advice on something that you already had in in mind, with the being said, at least take this bit of advice,benogan said:
marmel75 said: