I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Slow down there, chief. So far, I don't see anyone overtly disagreeing with you. With respect to me, I'd just prefer to use the term "assalt" in the case of a marriage over "rape". This is because I assume that a marital partner, by definition, does not object to having sex with whom they're married to.joekerr31 said:come on guys, use common sense.
was mostly replying to chrizz.azanon said:Slow down there, chief. So far, I don't see anyone overtly disagreeing with you. With respect to me, I'd just prefer to use the term "assalt" in the case of a marriage over "rape". This is because I assume that a marital partner, by definition, does not object to having sex with whom they're married to.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I thought he was just joking, with the cheerleader and all.joekerr31 said:was mostly replying to chrizz.
sorry should have been more specific.
I agree, no sex means no relationship/marriage. You are 'friends' with your wife, thus she is no longer your wife...she's a 'roommate'. So, you would not be cheating if you went elsewhere, it would be a non-verbal agreement.bigjohnson said:Refusing sex should be grounds for annulment. Little wh0re got in his wallet and stopped putting out.
I have to respectfully disagree. Sex should be an expected part of marriage. A man being sodomized is NOT an expected part of marriage, at least not in my area. Well, at least not until the divorce, which is essentially socially approved chainsaw sodomy.Mr.Positive said:That being said, rape is rape.
I'll disagree, assualt is unlawful touching/contact of another person. Battery is the unlawful attempt of contact...bigjohnson said:I have to respectfully disagree. Sex should be an expected part of marriage. A man being sodomized is NOT an expected part of marriage, at least not in my area. Well, at least not until the divorce, which is essentially socially approved chainsaw sodomy.
Was he wrong? Probably (I wasn't there) he was, but it's not rape. Assault would seem a more appropriate legal charge.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Agree. I made my best attempt at verbalizing the difference above.bigjohnson said:Rape carries a stigma and social loading that I'm not sure is applicable in this case. To me they are both wrong but completely different.
Legally by probably all states, this is correct no matter how much I don't like it. I'm aware I'm disagreeing with how the law is written so i just wanted to say that.The Sperminator said:Rape is rape but I still think 50 years is a little excessive regardless if it's your wife or not.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Definitely, at least considering you can kill a person and get significantly less time. Total bullsh1t.The Sperminator said:Rape is rape but I still think 50 years is a little excessive regardless if it's your wife or not.
Yeah, it's rape in the same way that a wife raiding her husbands wallet is theft. Try to get THAT one prosecuted.azanon said:Agree. I made my best attempt at verbalizing the difference above.
OK.bigjohnson said:Rape carries a stigma and social loading that I'm not sure is applicable in this case. To me they are both wrong but completely different.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.