"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mall openers

NewspaperRalph

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i really need better mall openers. becuase mine are lame. :( What's your favorite mall opener that will smooth your way into a conversation?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fred Da Head

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Don't use openers.

Just notice something funny/interesting/new and comment about it; ask a question; just start a random conversation. Openers rarely come off as natural, and if it's one that the girl has heard before, you've killed your chances before you even started running game proper.
 

gmillar

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"Hi, what's your name?"
Just introduce yourself, ask what's up, questions about her, what she's doing, talk about the mall, any common ground, whatever. This is a skill that comes only with practice. Anything canned or rehearsed is a total waste of time.
 
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