Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The article gives lots of reasons for it and they distinguish between pseudogynecomastia and gynecomastia. Interestingly enough they write that overweight men can actually develop breast tissue, elevated estrogen levels play some role in it. Still, it's sad for guys who suffer from that condition.Master Bates said:If that's what the article concludes, then it's not worth reading. If you have "breasts" because you're overweight, then it's because you're FAT, and you just have a fatass chest. Having actual breasts, breast tissue, is called gynecomastia, and aside from steroid use and side effects from some drugs, that's entirely genetic.
Totally true bates. I had it at 13, years before I smoked pot, and I forget the word for it but in the medical community it is classed as a disorder that doesn't have a cause that they know of. Its not like a breast either its hard lumps and tissue under your nips and lower pecs. The surgery is around 2000 just for that, and more for liposuction if there is fatty tissue along with the hard tissue. Some guys just have fat chests but no hard tissue, that could be solved with just liposuction.Master Bates said:If that's what the article concludes, then it's not worth reading. If you have "breasts" because you're overweight, then it's because you're FAT, and you just have a fatass chest. Having actual breasts, breast tissue, is called gynecomastia, and aside from steroid use and side effects from some drugs, that's entirely genetic. Most men with gynecomastia- men who are not overweight- developed it when they were in their teens. This article is retarded.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how do you know it's not muscle? cause when i tense the top gets all hard and a 'cleft' of some sort forms where i can feel the muscle at the top and fat at the bottom. (which i need to lose) But when im not tense i can't tell the difference as easily.Kerpal said:It just feels like a hard, rubbery ball under the nipples.