"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Making the first step.

Jerry Maguire

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First off; I know I'm a good looking guy, with an interesting personality.
Arrogance aside, I know that there are a lot of not-so-good looking guys with 2d personalities who have lots of hot girls.
In the past, I've been a shy guy because I've been afraid of what might happen, rather than going for what could happen.
The past does not equal the future, I want to get out more, meet more people; guys and girls (not in a bisexual way, lol).
I know that social skills are best learned through experience and that most of these posts are worthless if you don't actually have something to work on or improve on. At the moment, I'm not afraid to say that I have no or very limited social skills.
So, after I get over my minor surgery, I'll be back into the gym, I'll be getting a job and I'll be getting out and about with plenty of opportunities to meet interesting new people.

This, to me, is no new idea. For ages I've wanted more friends, and more women in my life. But I didn't take the first step.
I've only asked out three girls in my life. (Let's make this clear, I don't want to ask 50 girls out just for the sake of it, I only want to approach them if I think I'll be interested.)

So, is the first step (approaching a girl to get her number, or having a friendly chat with a guy) just a matter of grabbing my balls and not caring what they think of me?

I was also thinking that first, I should look at my morals; how should I treat these people, how should I treat myself (both with respect) and so on. Before I get down to actually talking. I don't want to be misrepresented, therefore if I do use some techniques from here, they will be used in a way that won't make me, or anyone else, feel bad/unfulfilled.



I realise I've rambled, so here is the concise part of my post; is the first approach merely a matter of grabbing your balls and letting go of your fears?
Also, do you think about your morals frequently?
Do any of you actually have morals relating to DJing? lol, if so, please share.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would actually suggest that you get some practise around girls, look on the first, say... 10 girls you meet as friends! Nothing more, this way you can build up a circle of female friends and get some training in how to behave around them. Feel free to use some DJ on some of them, but don't too much.

Good luck!
 
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