"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Making the first step.

Jerry Maguire

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First off; I know I'm a good looking guy, with an interesting personality.
Arrogance aside, I know that there are a lot of not-so-good looking guys with 2d personalities who have lots of hot girls.
In the past, I've been a shy guy because I've been afraid of what might happen, rather than going for what could happen.
The past does not equal the future, I want to get out more, meet more people; guys and girls (not in a bisexual way, lol).
I know that social skills are best learned through experience and that most of these posts are worthless if you don't actually have something to work on or improve on. At the moment, I'm not afraid to say that I have no or very limited social skills.
So, after I get over my minor surgery, I'll be back into the gym, I'll be getting a job and I'll be getting out and about with plenty of opportunities to meet interesting new people.

This, to me, is no new idea. For ages I've wanted more friends, and more women in my life. But I didn't take the first step.
I've only asked out three girls in my life. (Let's make this clear, I don't want to ask 50 girls out just for the sake of it, I only want to approach them if I think I'll be interested.)

So, is the first step (approaching a girl to get her number, or having a friendly chat with a guy) just a matter of grabbing my balls and not caring what they think of me?

I was also thinking that first, I should look at my morals; how should I treat these people, how should I treat myself (both with respect) and so on. Before I get down to actually talking. I don't want to be misrepresented, therefore if I do use some techniques from here, they will be used in a way that won't make me, or anyone else, feel bad/unfulfilled.



I realise I've rambled, so here is the concise part of my post; is the first approach merely a matter of grabbing your balls and letting go of your fears?
Also, do you think about your morals frequently?
Do any of you actually have morals relating to DJing? lol, if so, please share.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would actually suggest that you get some practise around girls, look on the first, say... 10 girls you meet as friends! Nothing more, this way you can build up a circle of female friends and get some training in how to behave around them. Feel free to use some DJ on some of them, but don't too much.

Good luck!
 
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