making rejection known or not?

[aschillascanbe]

so i asked this girl if she was free the next week for dinner..

girl: I'm not sure! Anyway, I can't eat! No money :'(! Need to wait for this month's paycheck!

how do you guys deal with rejection like that? I was thinking of sending a "i'll take that as a no then." or do I just ignore it completely and move on?

 

[Evan]

Why you asking her out to dinner? Do something cheap and low investment. Like coffee or a walk in the park. Something along those lines. If she makes up another excuse it's obvious rejection and move on.

 

[yoyoing]

you do nothing and move on ... she has 0 or very low interest .

an interested girl would have counteroffer or propose something else.

she is telling you NO. politely

 

[apprenticedj]

I didn't see a flat rejection here. Personally, I would say "Damn that's rough, I've been there. Let me know when that big check comes in so you can treat me to a fancy steak dinner!"

Keep it light, be polite, put the ball in her court and leave it at that. IMO I never like to show that I feel rejected, I keep the door open.

Now you're free to focus on gaming other women! See how her rejection wasn't that rough when you frame it that way? I agree with Evan, coffee dates or even better a drink or two is better than dinner.

 

[Zarky]

You didn't read between the lines. That's her saying, "I want you to buy me dinner."

 

[jay07]

Dinner is an innocent invite. if she was interested she would have accepted or countered. if you need to respond just say "th e only thing I charge for cooking dinner is the red box movie" , or something similar. but she most likely doesn't want to pursue

 

[yoyoing]

I didn't see a flat rejection here. Personally, I would say "Damn that's rough, I've been there. Let me know when that big check comes in so you can treat me to a fancy steak dinner!"

Keep it light, be polite, put the ball in her court and leave it at that. IMO I never like to show that I feel rejected, I keep the door open.

Now you're free to focus on gaming other women! See how her rejection wasn't that rough when you frame it that way? I agree with Evan, coffee dates or even better a drink or two is better than dinner.

Excellent answer ... Better then nothing imo.