"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mr_guido

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Hey everyone,
recently, I was at a party, and while on a walk, a girl (actually she's a good friend of mine) and I were sort of lagging behind. So we stopped and were talking, and then she came closer and forced a huge kiss on me. I didn't really like her style of making out, so I came out of it after probably 4 seconds. Plus it was a little weird as she was a good friend. Anyways, on our way back, another girl and I were ahead of everyone, and pretty well the same thing happened, it started with her giving me a spearmint, and then telling me that her breath was fresh (meanwhile I was thinking 'where is this going'....:confused:) and I answered back with the same thing, only to have her say "well, you should make out with me right now." So we did, and it was awesome, as I really like her and we've been friends for years. However, the other girl who kissed me saw us, and now she's a little pissed at me. How do I fix this? Thanks guys :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"How do I fix this?"
You seem happy with the second girl. Don't worry about the first. She jumped you outta the blue, your kiss with her was pointless.
 

mr_guido

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Ha ha! Definitely the second one. :yes: However, I'm good friends with the first one and don't want her feelings hurt.
 

PDubb75

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So use the "go-to" saying that girls use in the same situation. "I don't want to ruin our friendship".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mr_guido

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Ok man :D thanks. I'll try that.
 
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