Making her mad again

[Alehiokos]

Hey guys!

Straight to the point..2 years ago I (28 then) had a side chick (21) where we had amazing f*cks together. She knew she was a side and all.

Fast forward to today, where we stopped seeing each other almost after 1 year cause got into a "serious" relationship. Of course she tries to keep me as orbiter, giving hints and all, she just never succumbs again. Lately she has started to sending me msg like " you've never taken me for a ride with your new bike" or "he had amazing sex back then, and now youu should see what I've learned" and stuff like that. She still won't succumb or let herself be seduced, she plays the "moral high ground" card now that she has a bf.. But she acts so F hungry.

My bet is that she misses the tension/sex we had and she cannot find it in her bf now, so she reminisces.

How do I make her mad about it? I want to see her "suffer" in her moral highground.

Lovely Day,

 

[BPH]

Don't.

Judge her by actions, and not just her words.

She can tell you about all the dirty fantasies she wants. But the fact is, she's dating this other guy, and she is not straying to continue sleeping with you.

Don't worry about her, meet other women, and if she misses you enough or her boyfriend isn't satisfying her, she'll come back.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Mad about what?

She’s someone you had a strong sexual dynamic with in the past, who is now in a relationship but still occasionally reaches out with nostalgic, lightly suggestive messages while maintaining boundaries.

The idea is to not chase or push for a reaction, but to stay indirect and not engage in a way that signals neediness or emotional dependence. You don’t try to escalate or extract something from her messages. If anything ever reopens, it has to come from her choosing it on her own, not from you trying to pull it out of her.

 

[Alehiokos]

Hmm I didnt want to give too much context to make this a long post.. She is not only doing this via instagram messages occasionally, she is the daughter of my coach where I'm doing workout sessions, I see her almost everyday. And she is touchy, she asks me to rub her lower back when we are alone etc..

I feel like she is putting herself there, and then she withdraws, always keeping the sexual tone and the flirting. Like trying to poke me just to be sure that I'm still interested.

My question comes as to what I can do to not keep this "balance" between us. It seems to me that she is in an advantageous point when she engages like this.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Fast forward to today, where we stopped seeing each other almost after 1 year cause got into a "serious" relationship. Of course she tries to keep me as orbiter, giving hints and all, she just never succumbs again. Lately she has started to sending me msg like " you've never taken me for a ride with your new bike" or "he had amazing sex back then, and now youu should see what I've learned" and stuff like that. She still won't succumb or let herself be seduced, she plays the "moral high ground" card now that she has a bf.. But she acts so F hungry.

My response to this would be: "I'll ask your boyfriend."

 

[Glassguy]

Hmm I didnt want to give too much context to make this a long post.. She is not only doing this via instagram messages occasionally, she is the daughter of my coach where I'm doing workout sessions, I see her almost everyday. And she is touchy, she asks me to rub her lower back when we are alone etc..

I feel like she is putting herself there, and then she withdraws, always keeping the sexual tone and the flirting. Like trying to poke me just to be sure that I'm still interested.

My question comes as to what I can do to not keep this "balance" between us. It seems to me that she is in an advantageous point when she engages like this.

Leave her on read. And stop caring.
I hope this helps!

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Mad about what?

She’s someone you had a strong sexual dynamic with in the past, who is now in a relationship but still occasionally reaches out with nostalgic, lightly suggestive messages while maintaining boundaries.

The idea is to not chase or push for a reaction, but to stay indirect and not engage in a way that signals neediness or emotional dependence. You don’t try to escalate or extract something from her messages. If anything ever reopens, it has to come from her choosing it on her own, not from you trying to pull it out of her.

Lmao she's being a troll. She's not "maintaining boundaries" she's coming at him with bad intentions

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Hey guys!

Straight to the point..2 years ago I (28 then) had a side chick (21) where we had amazing f*cks together. She knew she was a side and all.

Fast forward to today, where we stopped seeing each other almost after 1 year cause got into a "serious" relationship. Of course she tries to keep me as orbiter, giving hints and all, she just never succumbs again. Lately she has started to sending me msg like " you've never taken me for a ride with your new bike" or "he had amazing sex back then, and now youu should see what I've learned" and stuff like that. She still won't succumb or let herself be seduced, she plays the "moral high ground" card now that she has a bf.. But she acts so F hungry.

My bet is that she misses the tension/sex we had and she cannot find it in her bf now, so she reminisces.

How do I make her mad about it? I want to see her "suffer" in her moral highground.

Lovely Day,

The immature approach would be to troll her back with a d1ck pic.

The simp approach would be continued blue balled engagement while respecting her "boundaries" lmao

No good option here OP. Try to ignore.

She's being spiteful because you didn't k1ss her @ss when you were phucking like her new bf does. Mad bc she didn't get/isn't getting the best of both worlds. Understand that she has now successfully made you mad as well.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She wants to see how much free validation she can still get from you and if she still "has you".

 

[BadBoy89]

Straight to the point..2 years ago I (28 then) had a side chick (21) where we had amazing f*cks together. She knew she was a side and all.

My question comes as to what I can do to not keep this "balance" between us.

You were smart enough to find a hot 21 year old and f— her brains out.

Find a hot 23 year old and do the same thing.

 

[Alehiokos]

The immature approach would be to troll her back with a d1ck pic.

The simp approach would be continued blue balled engagement while respecting her "boundaries" lmao

No good option here OP. Try to ignore.

She's being spiteful because you didn't k1ss her @ss when you were phucking like her new bf does. Mad bc she didn't get/isn't getting the best of both worlds. Understand that she has now successfully made you mad as well.

Noted.. thanks man!

 

[BeExcellent]

Concur with @Glassguy 1000%.

Perfect example of "all attention is good attention....."

ANY response you send tells her you still carry a torch & allows her to be bratty, bored, and toy with you.

Leave her on read, smile to yourself & go about your day.

My exbf still emails, as recently as 3 months ago. I have him blocked everywhere. I simply ignore him, no response whatsoever & go about my (now married) life. And I do keep my husband advised about the ex's ongoing contact attempts out of transparency. This is 6 years later mind you. My ex was dumb enough to lose me. Not my problem or concern....I've moved on totally years ago & no way I would disrespect my husband by responding to my ex.

Nor would I encourage my ex.....and trust me, ANY response would encourage him. I no longer carry any flame for the ex....so I simply have no desire at all to interact with him....that is not quite the case with OP.

If you cannot leave her on read and ignore her, then block her ffs.

 

[Sega Genesis]

How do I make her mad about it? I want to see her "suffer" in her moral highground.

The way to make her suffer is no response at all, act indifferent.

It sounds like all this is making YOU mad when instead you shouid take pride (within yourself) knowing she still sexually fantasizes about you and despite having a boyfriend, she is still your alpha widow. Otherwise none of this would be happening.

Best to act indifferent and/or simply ignore or try to.