"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i have a lot of accquintances, people I know, talk to, from work, school, clubs, gym, etc

but i only have 1 or 2 close friends with whom i hang out during my free time, but after i started doing more productive things like ballroom dancing and working out i rarely hang out with them anymore.

the new people i met don't go beyond the necessary stuff (i workout with some ppl, work with others, go to school with still different people) we are nice to each other, but can't really call each other friends as we don't go beyond that.

so now i don't really have any friends...i know a lot of people from a lot of areas in life, but i can't really call them my friends.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AlexTheGreat

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try hanging out with them and getting into a different setting with them. basically, seduce them, but without the close lol
 

Wee

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You gotta make the first move with them. Invite 'em to a bar to pick up girls with you, or to hang out and drink. Anything. Be funny and just have a good time, and if he thinks you are cool then you guys can chill again.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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RangersEST1926

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This post reminds me of a "Seinfeld" episode where Jerry was friends with Keith Hernandez!!
 

itishe

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I have the same issue. I know lots of people, but I don't hang out with them. I've noticed this with alot of other people though too.

Everyone seems to have a core group of 2-3 people that sometimes connect with other groups of 2-3 people thus forming 4-6 people groups.
 
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