"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i have a lot of accquintances, people I know, talk to, from work, school, clubs, gym, etc

but i only have 1 or 2 close friends with whom i hang out during my free time, but after i started doing more productive things like ballroom dancing and working out i rarely hang out with them anymore.

the new people i met don't go beyond the necessary stuff (i workout with some ppl, work with others, go to school with still different people) we are nice to each other, but can't really call each other friends as we don't go beyond that.

so now i don't really have any friends...i know a lot of people from a lot of areas in life, but i can't really call them my friends.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlexTheGreat

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try hanging out with them and getting into a different setting with them. basically, seduce them, but without the close lol
 

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You gotta make the first move with them. Invite 'em to a bar to pick up girls with you, or to hang out and drink. Anything. Be funny and just have a good time, and if he thinks you are cool then you guys can chill again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This post reminds me of a "Seinfeld" episode where Jerry was friends with Keith Hernandez!!
 

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I have the same issue. I know lots of people, but I don't hang out with them. I've noticed this with alot of other people though too.

Everyone seems to have a core group of 2-3 people that sometimes connect with other groups of 2-3 people thus forming 4-6 people groups.
 
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