"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i have a lot of accquintances, people I know, talk to, from work, school, clubs, gym, etc

but i only have 1 or 2 close friends with whom i hang out during my free time, but after i started doing more productive things like ballroom dancing and working out i rarely hang out with them anymore.

the new people i met don't go beyond the necessary stuff (i workout with some ppl, work with others, go to school with still different people) we are nice to each other, but can't really call each other friends as we don't go beyond that.

so now i don't really have any friends...i know a lot of people from a lot of areas in life, but i can't really call them my friends.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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AlexTheGreat

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try hanging out with them and getting into a different setting with them. basically, seduce them, but without the close lol
 

Wee

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You gotta make the first move with them. Invite 'em to a bar to pick up girls with you, or to hang out and drink. Anything. Be funny and just have a good time, and if he thinks you are cool then you guys can chill again.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RangersEST1926

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This post reminds me of a "Seinfeld" episode where Jerry was friends with Keith Hernandez!!
 

itishe

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I have the same issue. I know lots of people, but I don't hang out with them. I've noticed this with alot of other people though too.

Everyone seems to have a core group of 2-3 people that sometimes connect with other groups of 2-3 people thus forming 4-6 people groups.
 
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