steve_erkle
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when escalating, sometimes when i get nervous when i have to make a move. don't know why. advice other than, just do it?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Do only what you are comfortable with. You can't go from driving a Civic to a Formula car in a single setting. You aren't less of a man because you want to move slower or are uncomfortable in a setting, go at it in YOUR pace.
Besides, if she really likes you, it heightens the anticipation for next time.
Besides, if she really likes you, it heightens the anticipation for next time.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
I was once petrified of making a move on this girl I really, really cared about.
I did. It was one of the best decisions of my life. Grow some balls and get it done, or don't and regret it the rest of your life. Your choice. If you can't do this for yourself, what the **** are you ever going to succeed at in life?
I did. It was one of the best decisions of my life. Grow some balls and get it done, or don't and regret it the rest of your life. Your choice. If you can't do this for yourself, what the **** are you ever going to succeed at in life?
Ixnys
Don Juan
Some advice...
Was going out with a girl. I was hesitant about making a move (kiss). I kept on waiting for an opportunity. A time when she would just stop moving and it would feel right. Didn't happen. I beat myself up when I came home.
Started dating this other chick a week or two later. She was a little more aggressive. I knew she was into me. I knew she wanted me to kiss her and I definitely was going to. I was waiting for when she was going to just stay still and look into my eyes and I would go in. When the time came and I was sitting with her on the couch I started to make my move but I think she could sense that I was waiting for the opportunity. She straight out almost mocked me and said, "Oh so you're gonna kiss me now? That's not the way you do it"
Anyways moments later I just ****ing went in and she was damn receptive.
Lesson learned was to not wait for a perfect moment. Get some isolation and then just go for it confidently. She'll be receptive. She wants you to make **** happen. Don't wait for her. If I was dating the other chick again I would have just gone for it and if I date anyone else I'll be confident knowing to just go for it. Once you do it once you'll have confidence and it won't be an issue in the future.
Just do it. You're nervous because you haven't done it before. Once you do it you'll realize that there was nothing to be afraid of. Funny huh? That's why confidence = experience
Was going out with a girl. I was hesitant about making a move (kiss). I kept on waiting for an opportunity. A time when she would just stop moving and it would feel right. Didn't happen. I beat myself up when I came home.
Started dating this other chick a week or two later. She was a little more aggressive. I knew she was into me. I knew she wanted me to kiss her and I definitely was going to. I was waiting for when she was going to just stay still and look into my eyes and I would go in. When the time came and I was sitting with her on the couch I started to make my move but I think she could sense that I was waiting for the opportunity. She straight out almost mocked me and said, "Oh so you're gonna kiss me now? That's not the way you do it"
Anyways moments later I just ****ing went in and she was damn receptive.
Lesson learned was to not wait for a perfect moment. Get some isolation and then just go for it confidently. She'll be receptive. She wants you to make **** happen. Don't wait for her. If I was dating the other chick again I would have just gone for it and if I date anyone else I'll be confident knowing to just go for it. Once you do it once you'll have confidence and it won't be an issue in the future.
Just do it. You're nervous because you haven't done it before. Once you do it you'll realize that there was nothing to be afraid of. Funny huh? That's why confidence = experience
steve_erkle
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thanks a lot manIxnys said:Some advice...
Was going out with a girl. I was hesitant about making a move (kiss). I kept on waiting for an opportunity. A time when she would just stop moving and it would feel right. Didn't happen. I beat myself up when I came home.
Started dating this other chick a week or two later. She was a little more aggressive. I knew she was into me. I knew she wanted me to kiss her and I definitely was going to. I was waiting for when she was going to just stay still and look into my eyes and I would go in. When the time came and I was sitting with her on the couch I started to make my move but I think she could sense that I was waiting for the opportunity. She straight out almost mocked me and said, "Oh so you're gonna kiss me now? That's not the way you do it"
Anyways moments later I just ****ing went in and she was damn receptive.
Lesson learned was to not wait for a perfect moment. Get some isolation and then just go for it confidently. She'll be receptive. She wants you to make **** happen. Don't wait for her. If I was dating the other chick again I would have just gone for it and if I date anyone else I'll be confident knowing to just go for it. Once you do it once you'll have confidence and it won't be an issue in the future.
Just do it. You're nervous because you haven't done it before. Once you do it you'll realize that there was nothing to be afraid of. Funny huh? That's why confidence = experience
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.