"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Make one feel comfortable.

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If you're approaching new people or people who don't know you very well, what you want to do is make them feel comfortable.
They don't know much about you, so they will be a little cagey.
Lean back, relax & try to make them feel comfortable around you. Be nice, at first. Be`geniunly interested in them, their day.

Then when you notice her/his body language change, that's when you can get your game going & go for your goal :)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201105/is-the-best-way-flirt-someone-new
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thank RM

I absolutely ****ing love tactics that are backed up by science. They go in my small 'try this first' pile.
 
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